I recently looked at a blog that I think has a good writer and who I think could go somewhere. But there’s a major problem with it. This writer is spending his time writing articles such as “15 Ways To Tell If A Girl Likes You”, “31 Things That Drive Women Wild”, and so on and so forth. Now from a copywriting standpoint this is spot on and “exactly what’d you want” for traffic. And as a starting blog something he’s going to want is traffic and lots of it.
But here’s the problem. That’s exactly what I did with the start of my blog. Writing variations of common PUA type stuff that I knew was being searched for (but taking out most of the nonsense) and writing lots of it to gather those juicy juicy keywords that I could then monetize. However there is a big issue with this. It attracts the wrong type of traffic. When you compromise your art (something I did for both the red pill/PUA/get girls audiences) you compromise the quality of your traffic.
So instead of having great discussions with guys who are on the right track and want to know how to get there you get a lot of “I’m an out of shape depressed porn addict who works at McDonalds and lives with his mom. What line can I use to pick up supermodels? Mystatron 5000 said X and Y, but I think Z might be better.” to which I reply “Get your shit together and the women will take care of themselves.” to which that person doesn’t believe you and doesn’t want to actually put in the work so goes on to the next scam. So yes your traffic does go up but it goes up with people that you might not necessarily want on your blog.
It’s Not Rocket Science
Being attractive to women (and capitalizing on that to have relations with them, whatever those may be) is not rocket science. It’s not something that requires a Ph.d and years of schooling or (cringe) “in-field experience”. It requires being a guy who has his shit together and then just generally acting like a human being, nothing more and nothing less. So many guys using “getting girls” as a way to hide from putting in the work that they need to put in themselves that would ironically get them plenty of girls if they actually did it.
Women are a side item in life, they’re a reward so to speak or resource depending on how you look at it. They come not from thinking about endlessly but from doing other things that naturally attracts them. Like having an interesting life that you genuinely enjoy and putting in the work required of yourself to get there. It’s not about lines, plans, and all of that nonsense. It’s something that should be simple and easy.
And if it’s not then something is wrong and 999/1000 (my super duper scientificiky number) it has to do with you not having your life together. Look when you are socially and mentally adjusted somewhat in shape guy who enjoys his life and dresses somewhat decently it’s really not that hard to find girls who are going to be attracted to and you and who if you just act normal and human will sleep with you. But this doesn’t come from great effort, rather it only comes when there’s little to no effort.
80/20 As Always, Well Maybe More Like 95/5
Here’s how I’d put it. 20% of things (enjoying life, having confidence, being in shape, dressing nice, smiling and making eye contact) are going to get you 80% of results when it comes to being attractive to women. The tactics (how to approach, so on and so forth) are the 80% of things that are going to get you 20% of results. Now don’t get too caught up in these numbers because it’s much more likely 95% of results come from that 20% and 5% of results come from the 80% PUA/red pill type stuff.
The guys I’ve seen who do the best with women in my own life generally have absolutely no idea what the red pill or PUA is (and thank God for that otherwise they’d probably never get anywhere) they’re just fun guys who enjoy their lives and have their shit together as men (though other areas may be lacking). So while writing about all that 80% stuff is great for getting clicks and making money when it comes time to actually bring women into your life (in whatever capacity that is) it’ll just stop you up.
Your focus should be on your life and your happiness. Doing that will naturally attract women into your life. So yeah work out, dress nice, be an interesting person with actual interests (not just ones you think will get girls), and live your life. It really says something about the society that we live in that this is so damn complicated and guys are having so much damn trouble with this.
Focus On The Goal & The Rest Takes Care Of Itself
The goal being being fully developed as a man and living the life that you want because of it. Attracting women into your life is a side product of this. Get that, attracting women into your life is the side product of being an attractive man, not from endlessly chasing and conniving to get them as an unaatractive man. Meaning that it could all be boiled down to this.
Rule #1 – Be Attractive.
Rule #2 – Don’t Be Unattractive.
This doesn’t mean you have to be a 6’6 blond hair blue eyed steroid using superman. It means being the best version of you which means (and this is what people truly fear) putting in the work, the hard work. Something no PUA and very few red pill types will tell you. Put the work into yourself and everything else is going to come easy. If attracting women isn’t effortless then you shouldn’t be focusing on attracting women.
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-Charles Sledge
