Now the easiest answer to this is don’t get married. But here’s the thing, not getting married and not producing children just isn’t going to work for a whole lot of men out there. The fact of the matter is that most males/men are going to want to reproduce, they’ll want to carry on their lineage and bloodline. And while everything from the manosphere, to Hollywood, to feminism, to giant corporations will tell them this is bad.
Instincts are going to often win out at the end of the day. Now with that being said I think if we look at the modern marriage landscape we can see more than a few problems. Namely that most marriages are not something we’d want to be in. Now granted marriage is often portrayed as far, far, far worse than it is by the manosphere, feminism, and TV but there is still lots of pitfalls to avoid and ways for it to go wrong.
Now the first thing is don’t get sucked into thinking that marriage is a zero sum game or that the man always get screwed over in marriage. Now can marriage go wrong? Yes, absolutely. Do modern conditions do everything in their power to destroy healthy marriages both before and after “I do”, also yes absolutely.
Does this mean you must live out your existence purchasing consumer goods trying to fill the emptiness inside by screeching about independent you are? No, not quite. But let’s get into this, because it’s a serious topic that merits serious discussion.
The Truth About Marriage In The Modern World
The modern world is designed to destroy your marriage, let’s get that out of the way at the start. The Western world is the worst at this. Understand that this is done intentionally and by design. Not necessary because of shady conspiracies but because of human nature and the nature of power. A discussion for another time. Regardless women are literally instructed from essentially birth to not be good wives.
Same with husbands but to a lesser extent. They’re told to focus on career over family, sleep around, that following a man is about the worst sin possible, and a whole host of other negative traits. Meanwhile males are taught to be docile and weak, taught to be okay with and permissive of everything, except you know having balls, and taught that marriage is a privilege for them when really it’s the other way around.
So automatically rule out realistically 80% of women as being marriage material. You’ll be working with the remaining 20% and working to find them. I wrote an entire handy 3 part guide about it, the first of which you can find here. Regardless understand that like in seduction it has over 50% to do with the woman whether something ends up working out or not. Something that people tend to forget.
The Most Politically Incorrect Truth In The World
This will piss a lot of people off and this is certainly something that can be abused but it also rings true. Here’s the thing in societies, tribes, civilizations with out men, strong, wise men to guide and lead them women end up crazy, angry, and unsatisfied. You can rage about this, you can sharpen your keyboard and come after me about it, but it remains true. Without masculine leadership women go crazy, and guess what?
Marriage is no different. One of the biggest reasons that marriages go off the rails aside from not being marriage material in the first place (refer to the unicorn articles if you want to learn more about that, link here again). But even if a girl is marriage material a marriage can still end up in shambles if the man refuses or doesn’t know how to be a man and doesn’t understand how to lead his wife…and children, but that’s another story.
Weak males make for failed marriages. I’m not saying this is the ONLY thing that can go wrong or that if you’re strong then nothing could possibly go wrong, of course not, shit happens as they say. Rather what I’m saying is that this is a frequent pattern in failed marriages. It’s not one marriage counselors will ever point out soon but since when has a marriage counselor ever helped a marriage?
How To Keep Your Marriage On Track
Same way you keep the rest of your life on track, be the man. Take the lead, in all aspects of your marriage, and really your life. I’m not saying be a control freak but be a leader. Much is said about possessing your woman/women in the bedroom, which yeah is important, and here’s how to do it. But you have to lead in all facets of life. Not micromanage but lead. You have to lead yourself, your wife, and your children if you have them.
A strong man is the only hope that any them have of getting somewhere worthwhile in this world. Another politically incorrect truth, but hey, truth is truth, right? Or at least it should be. Regardless you would do well to make truth part of your life, no matter if it goes against the grain. I understand this isn’t a comprehensive guide on how to keep a marriage from failing but it’d take more than an article, more than a book, to cover all of that.
I wanted to hit on some big reasons and leave you with some things to think about, and I hoped it worked.
If you have any questions you would like to see answered in a future post send them to me at charlessledge001 (at) gmail (dot) com. If you found value in this post then I would encourage you to share this site with someone who may need it as well as check out my books here. I appreciate it.
-Charles Sledge
