Unlike most in this part of the internet I’m not rapidly anti-marriage. Of course I also don’t sit around in my mom’s basement playing videogames and watching porn and declaring myself an uberman of some sort. Also most of my life interacts take place off the internet. So I guess that makes me a rare breed on this side of the internet as well. However with all of that being said I’m not so naive to not see that marriage is fraught with danger for many men.
Not that it can’t be done successfully for those that want such a path but in order for it to be successful you have to go in with both eyes wide open. Something I’ve noticed with some naturally “alpha” guys that I know that have ended up with failed marriages have been because they have violated this most ancient and powerful of rules. One that when violated guarantees that your marriage will end in failure regardless of who you are.
Violation of this rule has brought down rock stars, kings, rich CEOs, world class athletes, and more. No matter how strong or alpha the man violation of this rule results in the destruction of his marriage at some point. And it actually doesn’t have anything to do with the man in question. The man could literally be doing everything right exemplifying every rule laid out in King Of The Jungle and yet will still fail if he violates this.
Most Marriages Can Be Saved By This
When it comes to the average guy who is having minor marriage issues (that will eventually transform into major issues) the answer can usually be the “up the alpha” so to speak. Simply meaning the man needs to become a better and stronger leader, more of a man. He needs to be the man that his wife can feel something other than loathing for. Just man up a little and the marriage can often be saved and put back on track.
A woman will never have respect for a weak man and respect is the foundation of a healthy relationship between a man and woman. However respect is something that can’t be given out of pity, it’s something that is simply a reaction to strength. So by build strength a man can often save his marriage or if that isn’t possible ditch it with as little pain as possible and start a new better life.
However with all that being said it is still only covering one half of the people in the marriage. Some marriages or relationships are doomed to failure before they even start and it has nothing to do with the man. He could be the “most alpha” man in the entire world and it would not matter. And here’s why.
It Takes Two
Most people focus on what the man can do and who the man is. And this is a very important point and obviously plays a huge role in how any relationship or marriage eventually turns out. But at the same time it takes two and wife selection is even more important than being an attractive and alpha man yourself. There are guys who are not very alpha yet will have full, loving, and cheating free marriages because they picked well (or were set up well).
Likewise there are guys that have girls clamoring for them yet will end up with a woman who will cheat on them. And here’s why. Many guys (especially naturally alpha guys) will in their naivety believe they can marry a ho and turn her into a housewife. Now maybe they won’t think of their girlfriend, fiancee, or wife as a ho but that doesn’t mean she isn’t one. They may think ‘Hey I partied and slept with a bunch of girls so I can’t really blame her for doing the same even though it was way less than me’.
Or something of that nature. And down the road they’re shocked to find that the marriage did not work out. I’ve seen this play out time and time again in generation after generation. They think they’re the exception to the rule and that the “You can’t turn a ho into a housewife” only applies to lame guys who aren’t good with women (or whatever the term you want to use is).
You Can’t “Out-Alpha” A Ho
It’s a simple fact. A ho is a ho and she’ll always act as such. Doesn’t matter if she’s married to a nerd or Brad Pitt, eventually she’ll show her nature because she can’t help it (after all it’s her nature). Sure it may come out sooner with the nerd than with Brad Pitt but it’ll still eventually come out. And then guys sit there and wonder what they did “wrong”. When the only thing they did wrong was choose the wrong girl.
Now you may naturally ask “Charles what constitutes a woman being a ho?” and that’s really a question I can’t answer definitely. Know that every partner a woman has had increases the chances of divorce and infidelity and that a man is often better off just working on himself and playing the field, not committing.
I’ll also say this. If you ever have even a tiny shred of doubt about a girl you plan to marry you’re better off not doing it. Seriously trust your instincts and if anything seems even a tiny bit off, don’t go through with it.
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-Charles Sledge
