As a man to get the most out of life there are some things that are non-negotiable and that if we lived in a healthy society we would have been taught since birth. Things like how to make money, the reality of women, and the importance of combat skills. As well as how the mind affects all that we do and how freedom cannot be achieved unless we master ourselves and the preceding skills. I’ve written before about why the man must lead when he interacts with a woman but the truth is it goes much deeper than that.
A man must lead in all that he does. Every man must be a leader of himself and the world around him. Remember men are the active forces of creation. If a man wants something done then he must go out and do it himself making it essential for men to learn certain skills. If a man sits back and waits for others he’ll end up dead, he needs to take things on himself and sarge forward.
Leadership
Like being unapologetic and dominant being a leader is an essential part of manhood. A man must lead in all that he does. He must lead when seducing a woman, he must lead when he has a family, he must lead in business, he must lead with other men, he must lead in everything. As a man you must take everything upon yourself and then refine yourself to the point where you can deal with it all. The earlier you start taking responsibility for where you are the earlier you’ll have a great life.
I’ve talked before about taking charge of your own life and this is essentially what leadership is. Taking responsibility which requires strength. It’s much easier to blame others, circumstances, or to just gaze at your navel hoping for the best. However it is not masculine and it will do you no favors. Men are the leaders, women, children, and males are the followers.
Everyone Is Looking To You
Our society is falling apart because men have let it. This may sound harsh but it is the truth. Something like feminism could be easily resolved if the males of Western society weren’t too weak to stand against it. Feminism is a shit test that has been failed on a massive scale. However men who ignore the delusions of feminism are rewarded with submissive women and massive amounts of attraction from all women.
Women are not leaders, can never be leaders, and perhaps most surprising don’t want to be leaders. They weren’t created for it and fail horribly when the leadership position is given to them. A man who hands the guidance of his family over to his wife only has himself to blame when his family falls apart. A woman will never respect a man who gives the reins over to her. You are the captain of your life.
Ownership
There is no room for whining or complaining in a man’s life. If something goes wrong it is because he has failed at some level. At first this might sound extreme or neurotic but on closer inspection it is actually the thing that will lead to the most growth and development. You are shoving yourself into the deepest level of the fire so that you will come out the hardest of steel. As a man we either rise as heroes or fall to the wayside as weak fodder fit for the vultures. This isn’t fair, but life has never and will never be about what is fair.
Once you embrace this harsh reality you will be able to gain strength from it. This doesn’t mean we cannot support each other as brothers or that the few good women left won’t support you. It simply means that you shouldn’t count on it. Go into the fight as if it’ll just be you against the world because it most often will be. Then when others are there to help you it will be even easier. However it cannot be counted upon. A man must be independent and free.
Summary
The more responsibility you take for where you are in life the more power you will gain. A man must lead in all that he does, and I do mean all. You must be hard on yourself because the world will crush any male who exhibits weakness. Weakness in a male is seen as something to exploit unlike weakness in a woman or child. Purge yourself of weakness (though not feeling) and become the man that you were created to be. It is a blessing to be a man, embrace it and go forth and conquer.
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It all comes down to responsibility. You have to man up and take responsibility, one thing at the time. And soon, you will perceive yourself as a leader. Great text.
Thank you absolutely right.
“In the past there used to be training on how to lead and become a man. There was a right of passage that turns boys into men.
These things haven’t been around for generations so it’s unlikely
that your father ever learned how to lead and become a man. In as much,
he never taught you how to lead either.” I got that from the attraction insitute, how long have these rite of passages been gone now? what were the most recent rite of passages that once existed for guys but yet no longer exist?
A long time, combat at one time was a rite of passage but it has been some time plus that was combat for your family and tribe not a cabal of elitist wanting you to fight and die against your own best interest.
i’ve also heard one major cause for the loss of masculinity, is when the Military Draft got abolished, other reasons i hear are the feminist movement of the 60’s, and the industrial revolution as well
They all play a part but at the end of the day it’s up to a man to take responsibility for where he is and his development.
ya, in life, society, they always talk about what separates boys from men, or they talk about guys transitioning from boyhood to manhood, but they never talk about what separates girls from women, or girlhood to womanhood, hence why there are no female equivalent phrases to “man up, grow a pair or grow some balls”, at least to my knowledge.
“Girls naturally mature into women they don’t have to do anything to do so.” as you said there, totally right.
Another thing, would you say it’s naturally easier to be a follower than it is to be a leader? becoming a leader is something that takes practice, skill learning, meanwhile, being a follower is something you can become right away right, you don’t really need to learn how to become a follower, but yes you do to be a leader.
Absolutely it’s one hundred times easier, which is why the greatest rewards go to the leaders.
how do men end up with the better rewards in life than women do, specifically?
Women just sort of exist. Men accomplish. It’s hard to put into words. I guess women will never feel what a man does when he makes it. If that makes sense.
another quote i found somewhere is “Women find themselves. Men create themselves”
Nice.
what was the reason for in primitive times, the biological reason, as to why women, instinctively, innately, look for leadership in men, want the man to take the lead?
Survival. A man who can’t lead won’t last long.
Should use your blog posts as another book.
I’ve been thinking about doing that