A lot of guys greatly overcomplicate attracting women. They have all these theories and complicated sounding ideas. They treat an animalistic and natural pursuit as an engineering or rocket science problem and then wonder why they have to do so much work for so little. To me this is like having a complicated diagram on how to breathe. If you have to think about breathing you’re going to have a hard time of it, better to let your body do what it does best. Meaning that when you take care of certain things you don’t have to worry about the other stuff.
Attraction is meant to be a natural phenomenon. As is often and rightfully said “attraction is not a choice” rather it is a biological reaction. One that is not caused necessarily by words or complicated thought but rather through biological markers of various sorts at different times. When we lose site of this biological underpinning we run into all sorts of trouble and complications that just get in the way. Combine that with modern diseases like porn and lack of masculinity and its no wonder that so many guys struggle with attracting women. Either one quality one or many.
What Underlies Attraction
One important facet of attraction to understand is that for the most part it is based off of sexual dimorphism in its various forms. Meaning its based on the things that make the sexes different for one another. Evola has a good quote in one of his essays that states “”Indeed, the prerequisite for love, even purely sexual love, to arouse any interest and show any intensity is the maximum polarity; which is to say the maximum differentiation, between the sexes” and this is something that evolutionary biology and reality bear out. The things that attract one another is polarity between the sexes. This is why strong career “women” who larp as men will always be repulsive to masculine men.
In the same way that weak effeminate beta boys will always be repulsive to beautiful women. Try as you might you can’t escape this. No words, tactics, strategies, or cheap sales gimmicks designed to take advantage of insecure males who lack masculinity will change this. You can’t beat biology. Billions of dollars spent by corporations and governments can’t change this, some cheesy lines or whatever sure as hell won’t either. Women as a whole will never want weak effeminate men and men as a whole will never want ugly masculine women. End of story. Sexual dimorphism, biological markers, and polarity is what causes attraction.
What Comes Before Attraction
Just like beauty must come before attraction for men there is something that must come before attraction for women and if this thing is never there attraction can never happen. Or even if this thing is lost along the way then attraction will soon be lost as well. And this thing is respect. For a woman respect comes before attraction, just as with a man beauty comes before attraction. And should a woman lose respect in a man she’ll lose attraction as well. Just like should a woman lose her beauty a man will lose his attraction to her. And a woman’s respect for a man is largely based on his strength, not his morality. This is another reason why women can be attracted to bad men over good men. If those bad men are stronger and more manly.
There is a direct correlation between a man’s strength and his masculinity. Just as there is a direct correlation between a woman’s beauty and her femininity. Anyone who denies this is simply in denial of a basic truth. Weakness will never make a woman swoon as ugliness will never turn a man on. This are simple statements of fact. You can try to outmaneuver them but you might as well try to make the tides stop coming in by yelling at the ocean. Respect is based on strength first and foremost. Yes, other things may play a role depending on the person and question but strength comes first and foremost.
Strength & Respect
Strength is the basis of having both men and women respect you. Sexual dimorphism, biological markers, and strength/beauty (depending on if you’re man or woman) are the keys to attraction as well as many other things in life. Attraction is actually a deep and important topic. It’s about more than just biology and such. The nerds have tried to cheapen it and have failed miserably at it. So never forget that with women respect always comes before attraction and should that respect ever be lost, it will not be long before the attraction follows. Which does not bode well for you.
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-Charles Sledge
