So as men we’re the most masculine when we walk around with a frown, with our arms crossed, and try to be mr. tough guy right? Though this is often seen as what is masculine that isn’t really accurate. Again the reason advice like this gets spread around is because it is better than acting certain ways but is not the most masculine way for a man to conduct himself and often reveals weakness and posturing more than anything.
We’ve probably all heard the saying “If you’re really X then you don’t have to say it.” X being a great number of different desirable traits for example cool, rich, hot, tough, and so on and so forth. For example if some guy wants to start a fight with you and he keeps going on and on about how he’s going to “kick your ass” he’s probably kicked a total of 0 asses in his life (though you should still avoid it as fighting with legal consequences is stupid).
Same principle at work here. This isn’t to say there isn’t a time and place to be serious but the most masculine men don’t walk around with a stick up their ass trying to posture. That’s for guys who don’t believe in them own toughness, strength, and masculinity and therefore have to posture because of it. However guys who are actually masculine and strong generally have a pretty easy disposition about them and are if anything very happy go lucky.
What Happy Go Lucky Means
But before we go further I think it’s important to understand what happy go lucky means in this context. Definitions are tricky and important things. So often arguments that people have aren’t about the actual ideas being discussed but rather their definitions of those ideas. So to prevent confusion and so we’re on the same page let me start by saying what happy go lucky is NOT.
It’s not being a fool who doesn’t understand the world or the threats around him and is carefree because of it. It is not bliss from ignorance. Rather it comes from having confidence in one’s ability to handle the situations that life will throw at them. It is a happiness and relaxedness that comes from confidence and ability not from stupidity. When I say happy go lucky I am talking about the man who is wise not the fool.
The man who because of his strength can shake things off of his back and look at the world and all of its horrors with a smile. So while being mr. posturing tough guy is lame, being a dumb happy fool is probably even lamer. Being happy go lucky comes from strength and confidence not from stupidity and ignorance.
Live With A Smile
The best example of this I can think of is an acquaintance I have. We’ll call him Mr. X. Mr. X is a Marine who is a black belt in BJJ and has a 10-2 amateur MMA record. He’s probably something like 195 and completely jacked and tatted from head to toe. And he’s also a very funny and nice guy.
Now by nice obviously I don’t mean what we normally think of as “nice” as in weak but nice as in kind. He doesn’t mind laughing at himself, making jokes, and overall doesn’t take himself very seriously. He’s fun to be around and people naturally gravitate towards him. And yes if you really have to ask he has plenty of girls to choose from 24/7.
I bring him up because he’s a great example of someone who’s extremely strong, dangerous, and masculine but at the same time very laid back, happy, and generally has a smile. A part of masculinity I think too many ignore and fail to understand. It’s not just about being all “Grrr I’m so tough.” 24/7 there are multiple facets and nuances to it. Yes, strength is absolutely the base but the stronger you get the more you realize there are other facets to it as well.
Happy From Strength
Again in this case your happiness is going to come from strength and being able to take what the world has to offer and your confidence in yourself and your own abilities. Live life and meet the world with a smile because you are undaunted by it. Smiles do not come from weakness but can come from strength and that is what makes the difference. So smile because of your strength, confidence, and masculinity ability. Trust me its a whole lot more masculine then sitting around trying to look tough.
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-Charles Sledge
