At least compared to a man. Honestly the whole PUA thing I think set males back more than anything when it comes to attracting women. Most guys would have been better off lifting some weights, dressing nice, and just not being complete dorks and would have been better than all the PUAs out there. However it was a huge cash grab and gave some phenomenal business lessons…however as far as actually picking up women goes it set everyone back especially the socially awkward guys who were attracted to it most. The guys who had “success” with it were generally hopeless nerds who found that by not being complete losers some girls would respond to that.
It’s pretty sad society was ever so pathetic to get this way but that’s a story for another time. Had these guys focused on the things I laid out above they would have not only attracted hotter girls but attracted them much more easily than trying to memorize some script like a dweeb (only to get blown out by a guy who wasn’t a dweeb). But it did represent a path forward for many and started many guys process of self-development. So again not going to hate on everything about PUA, but as far as getting girls goes it’s probably the worse thing you can do other than being a male feminist (which is essentially what many guys were before transitioning to PUA).
Attraction
I hate to belabor PUA so much but unfortunately it’s tainted all talks of attraction between the sexes and like I said put everyone back almost as much as feminism. As Pook said the classics teach more about attraction than any nerdy manual by a socially insecure dweeb who can barely get laid with bar sluts. Thankfully I think that chapter is behind most men and they’ve moved on to more effective and efficient methods of attracting the woman/women they want. Regardless if it’s a string of one night stands, starting a harem, or finding a beautiful girl for a relationship. But anyways why the talk of all of this, what am I getting at? As I’ve talked about before attraction is a biological process. It’s a physical and spiritual thing (in a way) not an engineering problem.
This is probably why jocks and musicians drown in women but nerds (what every PUA was at one point) do not. Because the jocks and musicians get it’s about living and not thinking. It’s about a polarity and being what one was created to be. Men acting as men (not machines) and women acting as women. This is what causes attraction between the sexes and as we know attraction is not a choice. A woman cannot choose to be attracted to a man’s rippling muscles, sense of dominance and confidence, his skill, and passion. Just like a man cannot choose to be attracted to a woman’s long hair, youthful face, big eyes, firm butt, slim waist, unblemished skin, or large breasts. It just is.
The Tale As Old As Time
The men who attract the most women are not the ones who think about it the most, actually they’re probably some of the men who think about it the least. The beauty and the beast, the bad boy and the good girl, and so on and so forth. The masculine and the feminine. This is something you are, not something you necessarily think. The two when expressing each other attract the other. I remember one time sitting at a bar across from this attractive woman who had a guy sitting next to her doing his best to entertain her. I was doing nothing but smoking my cigarette and sipping my whiskey. She kept looking over at me, making eye contact, and smiling while the monkey continued his dance.
He entertained her for the night but when closing time came, I walked over to her talked to her for a bit and went home with her while the monkey was left wondering what happened. I’m not saying this to say I’m some super stud or anything of that matter but to illustrate a point. The dancing monkey likely went home and wondered what part of his dance went wrong. Not realizing that the problem is not in the dance but the fact that he’s dancing at all. The fact that he is a dancing monkey instead of a man. He probably wonders why he can’t attract quality women and even gets bar girls stolen from him, it must be his “game” he thinks…like a nerd.
But it’s his soul. I want to shake my head pat the poor guy on the head and say “Son, it’s not your game, it’s your soul”. What is the monkey to the beast? The monkey to the tiger? When will these boys realize that “game” might be a step up from being a spineless male feminist but that there are levels far beyond that. Will he always keep his thoughts and ideas about attraction in the nerd realm or bring it into real life? A monkey is above a slug but it is nothing to the tiger. I am superior genes and a superior expression of masculinity and life. Not words or dance can compete with that.
The Deeper Understanding
This is why guys who stick with the PUA stuff will always fail with women. While they’ll always approach 100 women before 1 finds them not repulsive enough to sleep with. Because they sterilize and neuter something that was meant to be lived. I often think nerds…bugmen (which the PUA is a version of) are hopeless and they often are. They are small souls who miss the bigger things of life and wonder why their plans are foiled and they’re not getting what they want. Luckily for the PUAs most guys are slugs and therefore a monkey has a chance. But when the tiger enters the jungle all scatter before it.
I also find it funny the PUAs lamenting about women and certain aspects of them that just don’t exist for the tigers. If they’d just give up their nerdy ways and embrace life they’d discover a complete new side to women but they’ll never do that. They’ll stick with their bug like understanding of attraction and never be able to make it work effectively or efficiently for them. They get table scraps and think its better than starving then forever beg for table scraps whining when the table scraps are harder to come by. While the tiger at the head of the table feasting just shakes his head and laughs at the poor demented fools who will never know or understand what he does.
And just as an aside think of how great their marketing was to have a bunch of guys take advice from socially maladjusted nerds on how to get girls. Seriously, think about that, probably some of the finest marketing since Ogilvy. Don’t get me wrong I fell for a lot of this stuff too before realizing how much of it was B.S. and the success I had was in spite of the teachings of PUAs not because of them. Then getting rid of them took me to a whole new level.
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-Charles Sledge
“Photo by Jared Belson“
