Physicality As The Basis Of Game

Something that I was thinking about was even though I have fluctuated in how good of shape I’ve been I’ve never been fat or a skinny dweeb. I’ll explain why any of this matters to you in a moment. I always played sports I did karate for many years, played baseball and soccer, then in high school played football, wrestled, boxed, ran track, and weight trained. Then in college I was at the gym at the very least three times a week even with a full course load and working about an hour away from campus.

Point is when thinking about all of this is that I’ve never “gamed” as an out of shape guy and therefore cannot relate to one who is and is trying to pickup girls. So when I look at somethings I look at them from the perspective of a guy who is in relatively good shape. Not great shape but good shape which has colored my outlook. So when I tell a guy “Just talk to some girls, learn the basics of game (don’t supplicate, hold frame, etc.), and get out there” I say that because that what worked for me.

Physicality As The Basis Of Game

But with that being said I was neglecting to think about how much being naturally broad shouldered (but not tall) and muscular added to my attractiveness to women. It’d be like a guy who is 6’6 telling guys how to attract women. “Well uh see step one is to simply exist and be 6’6 and uh don’t be obese. Also kino works really well for some reason, might have something to do with being a giant, Idk.”. You get my drift. And while red pill awareness, understanding of female nature, and a few other things that make up “game” are important (after all if you’re a giant who is also a giant pussy you’ll turn off girls fast as lightning), it’s not the most important thing.

The foundation of your game and your success with women is how you look. At least as far as sex goes, when it comes to long term relationships other things matter. But when it comes to quick sex whether one night stands, 5 minutes in the bathroom stands, or a fuck buddy relationship your physicality is going to be the most important thing. Again if you’re a giant sopping pussy then physicality isn’t going to work but barring that it’s very important. When it comes to quick sex physicality meaning how you look is usually what matters more than anything else.

Why Make Things Hard On Yourself?

Now sure there are guys who aren’t that good looking and have high notch counts with lots of women. However those notch counts would have much more easily been gotten if they were in better shape. And if you’re going after the cream of the crop girls then you need to be physically attractive. If you don’t mind getting your notch count up with a bunch of 5’s and 6’s because it strokes your ego sure you don’t need to be that good looking. But if you want to sleep with 8’s, 9’s, and 10’s and aren’t a multi millionaire paying for them then you have to be in good shape.

And as with everything in life, why make things hard on yourself? Going to the gym and being in shape is something that you should be doing anyway for your own good. Sexual dirmorphism is the key to attraction between the sexes. Having broad shoulders, a deep voice, being strong and aggressive, and so on and so forth are what cause attraction to women. Well at least the feminine attractive ones which is the only ones we’re after anyways.

Sexual Dimorphism & Attraction

But with that being said when it comes to short term attraction (one night stands and so on and so forth) a woman won’t be able to really tell if you’re an aggresive and strong man as much as she’ll be able to see that you’re a masculine man by the way your body is expressed. Again broad shoulders, thick neck, big arms, and so on and so forth are things she can instantly see and become attracted to. This is why you can take a girl home from a bar without saying more than a couple of words to you when you’re masculine and in shape.

Because in a dark bar or crowded beach a woman isn’t going to have much time to see your masculinity in other ways. And despite what PUAs say you can’t talk a girl into sleeping with you. It’s about physical animal attraction that was already there. Nothing more and nothing less. So when it comes to simply getting laid with top quality women then looks matter as much to women as they do for men. When it comes to long term things even some fuck buddy relationships this changes. But for the quick bangs how you look matters more than just about anything else.

Moral Of The Story Is, Get In Shape

Great shape if you can. Matter of fact there are multiple studies that show that a man’s partner count correlates with his upper body mass. More mass equals more partners. This doesn’t mean to skip leg day of course just a statement of facts. When it comes to quick animal attraction and quick sex how you look matters just as much to women as how a woman looks does to a man. Don’t neglect your physicality an important part of your masculinity.

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-Charles Sledge