This is a column from Jon Anthony of Masculine Development. Jon reached out to me and wanted to start writing a couple of columns a month for the site and I’m happy to have him aboard. Jon’s got some really great stuff on his site about attracting women, copywriting and making money, as well as becoming more masculine. In this article Jon lays out what he’s learned from sleeping with over 100 women off Tinder as well as lays a pretty good foundation of attraction for anywhere. Enjoy.
Men, we live in the age of the internet – and by God if you aren’t leveraging this to improve your sex life, then you are messing up big time. It used to be that you had to be an alpha male in order to sleep with tons of gorgeous women. The leader of the tribe would have his own harem, keeping 90% of the spoils to himself.
The times have changed, however. Now, thanks to technology, even a sigma male can sleep with a new girl each week. Sigma males are men who pursue their own path in life, and yet don’t commit themselves to a single social hierarchy or social circle. This is likely what many of us are, seeing that we’re committed to the path of self-development.
It’s becoming easier and easier to sleep with numerous women, due to lax sexual morals, and the increasing knowledge of the manosphere…and while I certainly can’t advocate that this type of lifestyle is the “end all be all” of happiness, it does have it perks. So, with this in mind, let’s get into some of the major lessons I learned from the past 100 lays on Tinder.
Hypergamy is Real
As uncomfortable a topic this is for men to discuss, female is a very real and very observable phenomenon. For those of you unaware, female hypergamy is the idea that women are naturally, biologically, genetically predisposed to be attracted to the top 1% of men. This makes sense when one takes only a cursory glance at our evolutionary history.
Thankfully however, you don’t need to be the biggest, strongest alpha male on the block these days, because our social hierarchy has changed. It certainly helps of course, but nowadays, having a high level of Sexual Marketplace Value (SMV) comes down to four things:
- Charisma (aka Game)
- Looks
- Status
- Wealth
These can arguably be divided into further categories such as height, congruence, confidence, and so on and so forth, but for our purposes a simple understanding does well enough.
When gaming women on Tinder, it is crucial to maximize these four aspects of who you are. Have pictures that display your social status, good looks, pre-selection, and wealth.
Online “Peacocking”
When gaming women on Tinder, it is crucial to make yourself stand out. They get bombarded with literally hundreds of new likes and messages a day, which is something the average man can hardly even grasp.
In order to make yourself stand out, you need to do one of two things. Either make yourself a certain “type” that she will be into, or simply maximize your sexual appeal to the utmost possible limits. If you can do both, you will be neck deep in women.
This is the Tinder version of “peacocking.” Remember those old PUA’s who used to wear weird necklaces, giant earrings, huge hats, and crazy jewelry? Yeah, that doesn’t work so much anymore – but there is some wisdom to “standing out” amongst the crowd.
Make your profile slightly obnoxious, with a little bit of “cocky funny” humor. This will give her plenty of opportunities to shit test you, which contrary to popular belief, actually signifies interest. If you can pass her shit test with flying colors, the attraction knob will be turned very much so in your favor.
Use pickup lines that push/pull, tease her, don’t be too needy, and arguably most importantly, move fast. Tinder is a hookup app for a reason – people want to hookup. This doesn’t mean you have to act uncalibrated, but simply being “smooth” and yet “fast” at the same time works wonders.
Looks
To be fair, when it comes to looks, I may have an advantage. I’ve been working out for the past decade or so, fairly consistently – and while I’ve had my ups and downs, I’ve gotten lifting down to a science. All I do is post a shirtless picture of me up on Tinder, and the bitches literally start opening me first with things like “hey abs,” or “wow you look great.” It’s insane.
To pull this off though, I recommend you only have shirtless pics up on Tinder if you can fulfill two simple categories:
- They were taken in a natural setting
- You’re actually jacked
If you have to take the picture in a mirror, it just seems douchey. To be fair, this can work if you’re EXTREMELY jacked, but for 99% of men it won’t work. Even so, it’s always better to have “natural” pictures that don’t look staged.
For example, from a recent fitness photoshoot (in my case), or maybe from you at the beach with your friends and family. Having just one picture that showcases your chiseled abs is more than enough to do the job.
Retention Rate
One of the most important, yet underdiscussed things you need to master, is your retention rate. This is basically the percentage of women that keep coming back after you sleep with them once. Getting a retention rate of even 20% or 30% will do absolute wonders for your game, and I’m speaking from personal experience here.
When you can get a good retention rate and have a small harem of 3-4 women consistently coming back each week for more sex, your abundance amplifies exponentially, and other women can sense it. You’re less needy, you’re more confident, and you’re cooler.
Ideally, upping your retention rate comes down to two simple things:
- Having an actual connection
- Giving her great sex
The first is a topic far too deep to discuss here, but as a general rule, you want to focus on actually getting to know each other. Obviously don’t be a beta cuck and take your Tinder match on 15 dates before kissing her, but simply hanging out and having sex for 3-4 hours can be enough to have a good conversation and get to know her.
As for giving her great sex, this is probably the most important part. If you can make a girl orgasm more than once, and squirt all over the place, she will almost always come back for more, because so few guys can do these things for her.
A good starting place is the DEVI Method, or the Sex God Method. It comes down to four simple characteristics, which you should embody in bed:
- Dominance
- Emotion
- Variety
- Intensity
Women like dominant men, as Sir Charles Sledge has already discussed previously. Fifty Shades of Grey was a bestselling novel for a reason. She wants you to give her emotions – do this by teasing her, playing with her, and just being confident and fun.
Variety is quite self-explanatory. Use different positions, consider roleplay, and have sex in different locations. As for the intensity, it’s about how ENGAGED you are in the present moment with her. This often just comes down to your chemistry with her.
Conclusion
In summary, Tinder comes down to a few simple things, that if you nail right, will account for the vast majority of your success. First off, get some good pictures taken that demonstrate your SMV. Without these, you will not get very far.
Focus on showing off a good physique (if you don’t have one, read this article by Charles Sledge), preferably in a natural setting. Demonstrate wealth, social status, and especially pre-selection. This last one is arguably the most important.
When you do meet up with her (not if, but when) it’s important to give her great sex to get her coming back for more. Just putting in a little bit of extra effort to learn these things can get tons of women coming back, and even BEGGING for you to fuck her just a few days later.
Master “The Art of Tinder” and you will never be needy or desperate again. Use it as a way to catapult your sexual success to the next level, and then leverage this newfound success to start really cultivating good game, and making your life as good as it could possibly be.
