I’ve written a lot about geography lately and I wanted to build on a few things I’ve been talking about. Where you live can have one of the largest impacts on your life than just about any other decision that you make. The environment that you put yourself in can mold and change you. It can decide a great deal about who you are and your personality. Not that you are a slave to where you live but there are certainly powerful forces that work on you in it. This holds true of nations, of states, and of geography.
Just as an Athenian was different from a Spartan, so a man of the mountains from a man of a coastal city. Different places reflect different ways of living and create different people. But is one way best? Is one way better than the other? While I think all places have their benefits and drawbacks anymore I think this gap is shrinking and some places are becoming better and better to live while others become worse.
But where it the best place for you? What is the best place for you? Now the simple answer would be oh if you want to “chase girls” and have a vibrant social life then go to the city and if you want to settle down and live a life with strong roots then go to the country. However more and more I don’t think it’s so simple. And that it’s not going to be.
Eternal Adolesence
There are many who say that males in Western countries are stuck in a sort of “eternal adolescence” now granted a lot of this is said by women who are used up and want males to settle down with them but there is a truth to it as well. I think this is because Western males often never have a chance to “prove themselves” to become a man. Therefore they stay forever a boy. I was stuck in this for a long period of my life, time that I’ll never get back.
My idea of the ideal life was lots of cash and lots of girls. However the more cash and girls that I got the less that I found it mattered. Not that I was ever a millionaire with a different girl every week or anything like that. If anything I was probably slightly above average. But who knows, average might be pretty low anymore. Anyways I found that these things don’t fulfill, obvious, but sometimes it takes time to learn the obvious. I saw that all the work I did to live this lifestyle was counter productive.
I tried focusing on other things and living a more well rounded life. While the money initially took a dip, nothing else did. I attracted more and better quality girls into my life, eventually made more money, and am now focusing on a place to settle down and raise a family in. Not saying that everyone has to do this but was my path. Anyways the more mature I got the more I was glad I didn’t get stuck in commitments that would take years to get away from. For example buying a high priced apartment or house in the city.
One Rises & The Other Falls
Getting back to the topic at hand, what I’m saying is generally the more that I matured the more I decided that the city wasn’t a good place to be. This especially holds true in Western countries. In other places the balance between cities and the country might be more healthy. I haven’t been everywhere in the world so I can’t say. So here’s what I’d say to you or to myself ten years ago. The city is becoming more divided and more dangerous. Many Western nations are on the brink of internal wars or collapse and the city is the worst place to be when/if that happens.
Chasing girls is a waste of time, focusing on your life and goals with ironically attract more girls than chasing them ever would. While they are “good” and “bad” girls everywhere if you’re looking for long term prospects the country is overall going to be better than the city. Man was not made to chase after phantoms that do nothing for him his entire life. He was made to have a family and grow. Deny this all that you want, you’ll come to it in time. Mountains and hills are superior to the city.
Even tyrants can’t conquer the mountain peoples, no matter how vast or strong or technologically superior their armies. Or at least they have a hell of a lot harder time doing it. Essentially go towards the hills, look for smaller towns, and tight knit groups. If you’re looking for a mate, it can often be slim pickings. Hence the need to work on yourself, your goals, as well as go places where you’ll be more likely to find a girl who can be in a long term relationship successfully. Understand the world around you is toxic and only becoming more so.
That’s what I’d say to myself and hope that it’d stick.
