“I can quit any time”, “It doesn’t affect me at all…no I’m not going to stop using it to see, I just know”, “Where’s your peer reviewed research that proves porn is bad?”, and so on and so forth. Shit is ridiculous. I don’t have the faintest idea how any guy can sit there fire up his laptop, tablet thingy, phone, or whatever go to a site watch another man bang out some chick jerk off and spill his seed to it then sit there and think “Yeah totally best use of my time and no way this is effecting me in a negative way at all that’s just nonsense”.
I mean seriously, let’s stop pretending that porn isn’t a problem. Look if you want to jerk off to porn, destroy your masculine essence, and fuck up your brain chemistry and relations with women (sexual and otherwise) then by all means go ahead and keep going down the path, just don’t pretend that it’s not effecting you and don’t pretend like your not in denial about its effects on you. And if you doubt it then quit it for a couple of months fill that time with productive activities and then report back to me.
Snuffing Out Your Life Essence
Porn turns you into a zombie and chokes out your masculine energy. In the process it also fucks up your brain chemistry and relations to women. I wonder what type of societal wide effect would happen were porn to be completely eliminated. How many socially awkward masculinity deficient males would clear up overnight? How much more productive and healthy would society be? And I’m talking from much more than a simple economic standpoint but just people’s relations. How much depression would clear up? How much better would the relations between the sexes be without porn?
And so on and so forth. I’ve seen guys come off porn and it’s like they remember who they are and start living “in color” again. Seriously it’s like they go from black and white or shades of grey to full color and become themselves again. Don’t get me wrong I have issue with some of the ways the anti-porn crowd takes it and they have their own agenda to grind but that doesn’t change the fact that cutting out porn would dramatically improve your life in a myriad of ways.
The first and foremost being reclaiming your masculine essence and energy. An energy that is meant to thrust your will upon the world. With work, women, life, and more. When you spill that energy out to pixels that are fucking up your brain chemistry you’re keeping yourself from living the life that you’ve always wanted and becoming the man that you’ve always wanted to be. It only takes from your life and gives you nothing but problems in return. Like any addiction or drug it makes you feel good temporarily while destroying. I don’t mean to sound like an after school special but that’s the truth.
Other Negative Effects
Aside from draining your masculine essence there are many other negative effects of porn as well. First and foremost whether a guy is looking for a girlfriend or trying to “game” lots of girls it’s going to hamper that by a large amount. When I talk to guys that struggle with women and can’t get laid/a girlfriend aside from a poor upbringing something I find more often than not is they’re addicted to porn or even when not addicted watching it often and jerking off to it multiple times a week.
And obviously this is going to completely fuck up their relations with women. The earlier this stuff starts the more fucked up the person using it is going to be. Imagine if we gave crack to 12 year olds, not saying that porn is crack but again you can get what I mean by this. Again I can’t imagine how many of the problems we see people talk about all the time stems from rampant porn use. So whether you’re trying to get laid, get a girlfriend, or really anything else to do with women in life porn is going to fuck this up big time.
Then there’s shit like eventually erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, being “pee shy”, and a whole bunch of other fun stuff. Again why would you do this to yourself? It makes you more socially awkward, a pheromonal beta, trains you to be a cuckold, weakens your masculine spirit, keeps you from real life and real relations with women, and a whole hell of a lot more. Again why on earth would you do this to yourself? Now you may agree but are saying “Yeah, but it’s hard quitting” so I’m going to share some steps that have helped those I’ve worked with.
Steps To Help Quit Porn
There are a couple key factors I’ve noticed with a lot of porn users that is missing from their lives. That when addressed greatly help to get rid of porn and if they were in place probably would have prevented much of its use in the first place. Now maybe you already have all of this in place (I’ll still cover things that’ll help you) but if not covering the following things helps tremendously.
First and foremost you need to get plugged into a group of men somewhere. And I’m not talking about hanging out with some guys from high school smoking weed and playing video games. There are a couple of options here. One would be to participate in sports of some kind, such as a work/church softball league that’ll have you socializing with men. Another would be joining an organization of some sort, like a church group. The third option (and my favorite) would be to join a fighting gym of some sort. Could be boxing, BJJ, whatever but these places have a sense of brotherhood that you won’t find many other places.
Second you need to take care of your body. Eat healthy, get enough sleep, be physically active, and so on and so forth. It’s much easier to fight off bad habits by replacing them with better ones. Same with reading, writing, playing music, and such. Throw yourself into self-development. This won’t get rid of it on its own but it’ll help. It’ll also make it easier to attract a girlfriend which is something I recommend for guys trying to quit porn but who keep hitting road bumps.
The third thing has to do with your thoughts. So again going to sound like a 1950’s after school special but there is a point to this. Remember the phrase “Idle hands are the devil’s plaything” as this is true and a big part of quitting porn. Also you need to control your thoughts and get this, try not to think about sex. Yeah I know that’s impossible, but if you do, think about girls you know (but it’s better to stop the thought completely, at least for now). It’s like going down the wrong road, better to turn back now before your car gets stuck in the mud and Bubba’s coming out with his shotgun.
Get That Shit Out Of Your Life
And start living the life that you were meant to live and becoming the man that you want to become. Which I’m guessing isn’t a guy jacking off to another guy pounding a chick. But a man who lives life to the fullest. Anyways I haven’t written about this subject in awhile but it’s an important one for the development of men and masculinity. You want to be the best that you can be then you need to cut it out of your life completely.
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-Charles Sledge
