I’m not going to sit here and pretend like I understand everything about this phenomenon or understand all of the psychological reasons behind it. After all people are different and go through different things for different reasons. However I couldn’t help but think this seeing guys go through it and thinking about the phenomenon as a whole. After all it makes a lot of sense. Of course most mid-life crises hit after this point but I can’t help but feel that they are connected.
Psychologists will give all sorts of bullshit reasons why a man might go through a mid-life crisis from insane Freudian theories to made up B.S. (something psychologists specialize in) like toxic masculinity to a million more reasons anyone will two brains cells to rub together (all 5 of us) could easily see is complete crap.
I want to take a look at this from a rational point of view and dissect this phenomenon to better understand it and so also you can better understand your options, the threats of the “traditional” path, as well as understand the way society functions as a whole and how that is rarely in the best interest of a man.
The “Traditional” Path
I say traditional because this is less and less the true traditional path but it’ll work for now. Let’s look at the average guy’s general path. Now this guy is some angry incel nor is he Mr. studly stud, just a normal guy. Probably had a couple girlfriends, probably went to college, and has a somewhat decent job. Won’t be purchasing a private jet anytime soon but won’t be sitting in the bread line either.
He’ll likely marry a somewhat attractive girl who probably has had the same amount or a little more partners than him (80/20 rule and all more likely will have more). Though party girls getting married to average guys takes place a lot so she may have a lot more partners than him. Something that will bother him but that he’ll keep quiet about and just try to ignore, at least for now.
She’ll want some kids and he’ll usually acquiesce, the same thing he’ll do for the house that costs too much as well. He’ll be alright for his 20’s and figure, hey you know this is just the way things are. He’ll go to his job, make love to his still attractive wife, and enjoy spending time with his kids. He’ll feel uncomfortable about some things. He’ll feel a bit like a slave at his job and have long pushed down some doubts about his wife.
Maybe he smokes a little weed to take the edge off. Or maybe watches a little porn or plays video games. Just something to keep out those nagging doubts that sometimes haunt him in the night. This will go on for long numbing years. In the best case scenario his wife will stay loyal and he’ll be promoted at least somewhat in his job. Again no private jets but maybe a vacation to Disney land once a year…then again who can afford Disney land anymore.
It usually won’t be until his 30’s that he realizes something is wrong. He looks at the fast fading looks of his worn out wife (he probably won’t think of her as worn out but stating facts here). She probably let herself go somewhat and has become somewhat bitchier. His kids will be getting older and more independent and he’ll be wondering about some things.
Maybe he teaches high school and for some strange reason this really pretty cheerleader always flirts with him. Or maybe he’ll be at the grocery store when a cute college girls laughs at his lame joke about which hot dogs to choose for dinner. At first he might stack these up to coincidence but then they keep happening.
That single mom at the gym who works out everyday and looks the part always waves at him. The 20 year old receptionist at work always laugh at his corny jokes. He enjoys the new attention and gets used to it. Maybe he’ll ask his wife to start getting to the gym and she’ll make a half-hearted effort.
He wonders if this is what it was like for his wife when she was 20. He thinks ‘We’ll she sure took advantage of it then’ and gets frustrated because he can’t take advantage of it now. With this new realization there are a couple paths a man can go down.
There’s the guy that drops the wife and enjoys his freedom. Ironically many times this happens because the wife cheats and the guy leaves. Then the wife finds not many guys want to marry up an aged slut and the guy finds he’s near the peak of his SMV. Or maybe he’ll stick with it and then try to recapture some of it with sportscars and the like as he moves into his 40’s and 50’s.
The Societal Structure Screws The Average Man
Something that isn’t really a secret. By following the rules in today’s world a man will find him, excuse my french, thoroughly fucked. As we all know by now as far as sexual attractiveness to the opposite sex goes women peak at 18-19 and men peak somewhere around 35 all things being equal. Obviously there are other factors at play as a woman who hits the gym everyday and keeps a tight and toned body as well as maybe has some surgery done will keep her SMV higher than a 20 year old pink haired feminist chick but she’ll never be able to compete with the 20 year old fit blonde girl at the same time.
Likewise a guy can augment his SMV to a large extent but all things being equal somewhere around 35 is likely when he’ll hit his peek. But again there are a lot of factors at play here. However for the average man and woman that is when they’ll reach peak sexual attractiveness. Now you can see the problem as most get married sometime in their mid to late twenties. When the women is beginning her decline and the man is beginning his ascent.
So the woman was able to enjoy her peak SMV but the guy will be handicapped from enjoying and making use of his. Of course a man making use of this such as divorcing his aged slutty wife or running off with his student is frowned upon and shamed whereas a woman doing anything of a similar notion is considered empowerment. I won’t get into such things as only weak men are controlled by the shame of people who hate him but it is a part of society.
My Advice & What To Take From This
Now for some men banging a bunch of sloots just isn’t going to cut it. They want a family with many sons to win them honor and glory. And I understand. However for these men I’d still strongly suggest simply working on themselves, making money, and becoming wise and strong in their 20’s and then picking the cream of the crop when they hit their 30’s for marriage. Think how much better it will be to be strong and experienced with a beautiful somewhat chaste wife who still has many years of beauty left compared to the average guy who’s confused misled and ends up marrying a quickly aging “party girl”.
So even if you’re a marriage minded man you should delay it, at least for some time. Spend your 20’s working on yourself and developing yourself. That’s what your 20’s are for. Sure if you want to bang a bunch of sloots during this time have at it. Unlike with women where having experience in such a matter lowers their value having some experience as a man (to a point) only increases his value. This will send most women into a tizzy but it’s the truth (then again most true statements do).
Do what you will with this information. I write for the complete advantage of the men who read my site. This isn’t a path you have to take but simply being aware of it will help you make smarter choices in this regard. I don’t mean to be harsh with this but the truth is often harsh and unpleasant. Which is why pretty much everybody is allergic to it and freaks out when exposed to it. But also remember it is the truth that will set you free. And freedom is a most precious thing.
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-Charles Sledge
