Some problems you can’t have without the other. They go hand in hand with each other. For example bullying and wimpiness. Two problems that get a lot of air time and are growing. Granted we’ve always had bullies and we’ve always had wimps in our society, in any society. Doesn’t matter what time period you look at. That’s because both bullying and wimpiness are parts of human nature. Ugly parts sure, granted most human nature is ugly, and parts we don’t like to look at. But parts that need to be addressed.
Most “solutions” to bullying that are talked about now have to do with “talking it out” and things like “turning the other cheek”. But this is sort of like telling a rabbit to bare its belly to the wolf and it’ll leave it alone. Their feminine strategies that may or may not work between women but that don’t work at all, and are actually a liability, between males. Males and females are different. Not just in physical makeup but mentally, socially, emotionally, and spiritually as well. Not saying one is better than the other but they’re different.
What works for women doesn’t work for men and vice versa. However this is something that people, especially “do-gooder” women don’t get. You can’t just talk the threat of violence away. This might work for the “karens” of the world, meaning yuppie white women who are used to getting what they want and being protected. But it’s not going to work for the average boy in school or on the street or anywhere else boys congregate and socialize. This doesn’t lead to good things. It leads to empowered bullies who know there’s no threat, a weak system that can’t punish them, and victims who resort to drastic measures.
Fighting & The Human Male
Or really a male of any species, testosterone being testosterone. I’m not here trying to be that guy that says everyone should do what I do, I’m just trying to point out facts. Fighting is an inescapable part of life, even if you never get into a fight your entire life. The threat of violence always plays a role beneath the surface. It’s as natural to humans as breathing. Kids that are socialized early to violence are at a disadvantage. Now by socialized to violence I don’t mean seeing or experiencing extremes forms of violence around them.
I’m not saying kids should be beat or see death or things of that nature. I’m referring to the fact that violence is an inescapable form of life, things like “horseplay” and being rough and tumble, and the fact that males use violence to gain dominance over one another. This shouldn’t become a surprise to them. Too many males are shocked at their first experience with violence. Like violence is this thing that’s over there and doesn’t affect them. Then they’re shocked to find that it does.
Structured fighting introduces violence in a controlled and healthy way. Kids learn to adapt to it and thrive in it while not relying on it to prove themselves. They been immersed into something that many spend their whole lives trying to avoid and end up in worse spots because of it. When one is comfortable with violence and respects it without having an unhealthy fear of it. It allows you to thrive in situations where things might get violent. Which with males is essentially every situation where there’s more than one there.
Humbles The Proud, Gives Strength To The Weak
But that’s not all there’s another unique thing that fighting does that other sports don’t. Something fighting does is give strength to the weak and humbles the proud. Let me explain. When a bully comes into fighting whereas in other sports he could use his size to dominate and…well bully it’s not quite the same game. Sure size matters but unlike in say football it can be overcome. So the bully gets his ass handed to him by someone half his size and it blows up his ego and perception of himself. If he sticks with it he finds he’s not tough shit and maybe should be more respectful.
Likewise take a kid who’s weak and say in a sport like basketball wouldn’t be able to keep up and would always warm the bench and he’s given an opportunity to shine. He finds that he’s far stronger than he thought before and that he has the ability to fight, and against those much larger than him. After time in it, when a big guy comes in who’d normally bully him he finds that he can hold his own or even dominate the guy. Again obviously weight, size, and strength matters, why we have weight classes, but when we’re talking untrained vs trained a huge gap can be made. The weak kid finds that he’s not powerless anymore.
Like I said it humbles the proud and gives strength to the weak. Something that inferior ball sports and the like don’t. Yes, I said inferior and I loved playing football but it’s not the same. Not that those sports can’t build good things, they absolutely can but it’s just not the same. There’s a difference between good and great, better and best. But there is a bigger gap growing everyday. More and more kids either end up bullying or being bullied with less well adjusted kids in the middle. Fighting would remedy this. Make wrestling and boxing a part of the school system. Have everyone take a year. We teach history, mathematics, science, and all of that. Isn’t boxing and wrestling just as much part of the Western tradition?
Fighting, The Gift Of The Gods
It’s where kids who are a physical disadvantage can still excel physically. It requires brain and brawn. It strengthens the weak and humbles the proud. It’d do more good in schools and in the life of children across the country then any number of anti-bullying social programs or the like. Of course those are more about preening and allocating funds than they are about actually helping kids but that’s a topic for another time. Point is, if kids all fought under a structured program with supervision they’d have better lives for it, across the board.
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-Charles Sledge
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