You’ve been at it for some time. You written and rewritten it multiple times and wracked your brain trying to come up with a solution. Perhaps you really wanted it at first but now you don’t even know if the end result is worth the trouble. Or perhaps you don’t think you’ll ever be able to express it completely. It could be talking to your boss about a promotion, it could be writing a piece of copy for your business, or it could be winning back a friend who you betrayed. At different times in our lives we all need to find the right words to say.
This is often harder then it sounds and when the chips are down and your working under a deadline not finding the right words to say can drive you crazy. Sure there are methods to solve issues using the subconscious mind but sometimes you need something a little more or at a faster pace. Yet you know what you want to say in your heart or perhaps more accurately you know the feelings you want to express but you don’t know the words to express them so that they are understood by the other person. Regardless if they are a potential buyer or best friend.
What To Do, What To Do
So now you’re stuck. And you are frustrated especially if you are a type A personality like me. You wish problems were real things that you could just take the sword to and be done with it. But unfortunately not all problems can be solved in such a way. They require adaptability and different methods of solving problems. Now back to our problem you know how you feel but you don’t know how to express it. It may just turn to frustration, anger, or you may just say “fuck it” and never solve the problem.
Unfortunately none of the above methods are going to do anything for you (trust me I’ve tried). Instead we need to look at a way to communicate to the person we want in an accurate and heart to heart way. Many men feel being unemotional is a good thing and I agree to an extent. Being unemotional as in not controlled by our emotions is a good thing but to not express emotions is not. Look just because women go on emotional roller coasters and their emotions make them unreliable does not mean that emotions in and of themselves are evil. They are needed and helpful to the problem solving process when properly utilized.
The Right Way
Alright so now we know what doesn’t work. Becoming angry or frustrated, giving up, or bottling our emotions. We are going to need to utilize our emotions in this process because after all isn’t that what we are trying to express. Humans (women more so than men but still humans as a whole) communicate on a emotion level rather than logical. Doesn’t matter if your seducing a woman or selling a prospect or making a friend it is through emotions that we bond and connect.
This includes how men bond and connect. Anyways what this has to do with finding the right words to say. This is a trick the good copywriters have used for quite some time but it is just as useful (if not more) in personal relations and anything having to do with communicating with another human being.
Use Your Mind
Your mind is powerful, if you’ve read this site for any length of time you already know that. And one of the most powerful things that the mind can do is visualize. You can visualize conquests, successes, and other things. It is visualization that we are going to use to find the right words to say or write.
So say you’ve written and rewritten what you’re trying to say ten times over yet still can’t get it right and what’s worse you have to deliver whatever it is you’re trying to communicate in an hour. Here is what you are going to do. You are going to visualize sitting across to you or next to you or whatever the person you want to express what you are feeling to.
Now you may say but it’s a crowd, not an individual. Still pick one person you ideal customer, the average member of where you’re speaking. Visualize them (you see why this is so much easier when you have a real person you are trying to communicate to). Next thing you are going to do is you are going to express in words how you feel to them as if they were sitting right there listening intently.
Simple But Powerful
Run through it multiple times. There is something powerful about using the visualization combined with vocally speaking not just mulling over it in your mind. Saying it out loud adds an extra power and realness to it that can help you really drill down into whatever it is you are trying to say.
Communication is one of the greatest gifts man has it makes sense to make the most out of it. Keep at it the emotions will begin to flow which will transpire into solid words and thought. You see when your actually talking you open up the emotional flow and release which then allows your mind to analyze and make sense of it. When you write something it doesn’t have the same effect. Release the floodgates of your emotions and express it to the word. The best orators and communicators have understood the power of letting emotions flow. Do so and you will always have the right words to say.
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-Charles Sledge
