Most people would rather cling to comforting delusions even though they destroy them, then face harsh realities and survive. This is a fact of human nature. It’s one that many in high places use to exploit people with. And I think more and more it seems that males are being raised with more and more thoughts and ideas that just simply have no bearing in reality. And granted it’s not their fault.
We live in a world divorced from reality, and I’m not just talking about feminist liberals or people like that. This applies just as much to conservatives, liberals, libertarians, and just about any other mental illness you can think of. It’s across the board for the majority of those living in “developed” countries. We get separated from nature, from reality, we live in cocoons, cocoons where our inaccurate version of reality is reflected.
And then when reality comes barging in, as it is wont to do, it’s more than these people can take. And again I know this sort of thing gets applies to “millennial liberals” and the like, whatever that means. But this applies just as much to anyone and everyone else. Anyways getting a bit off track here. Point is, we’re being raised and bringing generations up with tons of false beliefs about reality and the way the world works.
Different Realities
I think one thing you figure out very early in life is that men and women live in different realities for the first part. For example a young pretty girl is going to have a hard time having a grasp on reality, just like an old rich man is also going to have a hard time having a good grasp on reality. Or at least what reality is for the average person. I am in no way, shape, or form saying that being a young beautiful girl or an old rich man is wrong. As a matter of fact I aspire to be the latter one day.
Rather what I’m saying is that different people live in different realities. Now this can be taken too far when people swindle those who have made better choices in life than them and therefore live better lives into feeling bad for the people who make stupid choices. AKA charity and the like. So it goes both ways. But anyways back to what I was getting at.
Men and women live in different realities. This is one reason, of about a billion, why a man will get horrible advice from a woman about what to do in dating. For example a guy “just waiting around till the right person finds them” is going to waiting a very long time as the man generally makes the first move. Or likewise “just be yourself” if you’re a young pretty girl then yeah just being your self, your young hot self, is enough. But for the average guy it’s a little more complicated.
As an aside I do think men should “be themselves” when trying to attract a mate, after all who the hell else are you going to be? But they need to be their “best self” but that’s a whole other topic.
The Confusion Men Have Been Raised With
Which brings me to my point about a truth that men have a hard time understanding, figuring out, or dealing with when it finally dawns on them. Here’s the truth, the critical truth that men need to understand and will do better once they understand. No one gives a shit about you and no one is going to help you. Stop thinking you’re going to be treated like a girl and realize you’re a man and therefore, again…
No one is going to help you, and no one gives a shit whether you fail or succeed, whether you live or die, or anything. You out there by yourself and you better figure out how to survive, even your brothers won’t want you around if you’re weak. No that’s not to say your mother doesn’t love you or that your father doesn’t want what’s best for you. Or that there’s literally no one out there that cares about you.
I don’t say this for you to think “Yeah, girls have it so easy. I’m going to cry about it and wish I was a girl.” no I don’t think that’s very masculine or productive at all. You’re a man and nothing is going to change that. Just understand how society as a whole will see you. They might help a girl, usually has to do with somewhere deep in the unconscious thinking it’ll lead somewhat closer to sex, even though it won’t, but no one’s going to help you.
No one gives a shit, no one cares. So therefore you have to give a shit and you have to care. The world doesn’t tolerate weakness in men. Understand that. It might be unfair, but hey life’s unfair and I sincerely hope you’ve learned that by now.
What To Do About It
So what to do about this harsh truth? Well, first thing is accept it. You can break yourself against the truth and the harsh realities of this world but what you cannot do is get them to bend for you. Accept this truth for yourself and if you have sons you better be passing it on to them. Then work hard to make your life better because of this truth or at the very least no worse because of it.
Cultivate strength and wisdom. Understand how society works and how that can be used to your advantage and how that also plays to your disadvantages. There’s always a yin and a yang, well maybe not always, but most of the time. So accept this truth, pass it on, and conduct your life so this truth doesn’t hurt you or someway, somehow you can even turn it to your advantage. Because when there’s a will, there’s a way.
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-Charles Sledge
