It’s been awhile since I’ve written about masculinity and that’s something I need to remedy. I’ve said before that the best thing that can happen for a society, the best thing to bring that society success and prosperity is for the building of, encouragement of, and promotion of strong fathers. There is no other single thing that’ll do as much for anyone, anywhere as having a strong father.
It’s like being born with a cheat code.
And unfortunately it’s not something that all or even many of us have ever had. And so we walk around with a wound, a gap in our heart that we try to fill with many different things. Sometimes alcohol and drugs, sometimes rebellious behavior, other times deviant behavior. I see a lot of people that are easy to make fun of.
People that are demented or that are weak or caught up in the crazes of this world. Where most would point and laugh, and maybe feel a little bit better of themselves. I feel sadness and an ache. No male was born to be some of the wretchedness we see walking through the streets today.
Whether that be drugs, mental illnesses, or many of the other maladies of the time.
We’ve let the wolves come in and they’ve been feasting on a dying society for far too long.
The Pillar
Men are called to be many things. Courageous and wise for example. I’ve used many, many analogies and examples of what men should strive to be. The kind of men that change a society around them. You’ve probably heard the term “pillar of the community” before. Generally it means someone who has done a lot for a certain community. Someone who has been around, knows everyone, and has contributed deeply to a community.
That’s what it means to be a pillar of the community and it ties into what I’m talking about today. Men are the pillar of societies. They’re the things that hold everything else up. Just like a pillar of a community holds the community up. As men we want to be pillars of our own communities. In the sense that we just talked about and in the sense of being what holds it up, what binds it together.
But what community is yours?
The Community
Men need a tribe. Unfortunately this is hard to get in today’s world. It’s hard to find others that are worth investing time in and even harder finding a sizeable number to work with. My suggestion is start where you are. Start branching out and forging connections with those around you. Wherever you are. Try to find like minded people, maybe start a club of some sort. Women do this all of the time, it comes naturally to them, but men need to do it as well.
Book club, fight club, hiking club. Whatever. I know it’s something that men have to work at but it’s more than worth it in the long run. Forge relationships. Relationships are the key to community, the key to health really. It’s going to take men organizing that brings back around healthiness and goodness. It’s not something others are going to bring back and it’s not something that’s going to happen on its own.
It’s going to take concentrated action, across the board, across the world, with many different men to bring about healing. What you can do is look to strengthen the community that you have around you, the community that you find yourself in. That’ll spread to others. Like the sun spreading across the land, driving away the darkness.
There Is Hope
For men, for society, for good things in the world. And it starts with men. It was interesting with the old site Return of Kings, a giant manosphere site, that while they were protested it wasn’t until they organized men meetups around the world that the protests really started in earnest and concentrated action was taken against them. Because the powers the be knew that men talking on the internet is one thing but joining together is another.
That’s not to say I agree with everything about that site or the manosphere, I most certainly don’t. But it does illustrate the power of community. With community comes strength and healing. With the pillars joining together, a wall against the darkness is made. Stretching the analogy a bit but you get the point.
So go and be a pillar.
Because you’re the only that can.
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-Charles Sledge
