Let’s stop pretending otherwise. Honestly if anything the inability to get laid reflects a lack of masculinity. I know I’ll get all the women don’t define masculinity in the comments but that’s not entirely true. Let me explain what I mean. Women do in part define masculinity just as men do in part define femininity, if only through polarization (but I think it’s much more than that). Pretending like men and women (and therefore masculinity and femininity) exists in separate vacuums is just ridiculous. They both have an effect on each other and mean something to one another.
Sure a woman can say that masculinity is this or that and it means nothing. But there’s a difference between that and what a woman responds to on a biological and primal level. Women are attracted to masculinity on this level and frankly if you’re not attractive to women in one way or another (dominance, in shape, strength, acquisition of resources, whatever) then you are lacking masculinity in one facet or another. Works the same with women, if men don’t find you attractive overall then you are missing femininity in some way, shape, or form.
Not Everything, But Damn Sure Something
Sure getting laid and being attractive to women isn’t everything but pretending it isn’t something is delusional and a way to hide your weakness from yourself. Women should have a primal lust for you as men should have a primal fear, even if both are just on a subconscious level. This counts for something and is a part of masculinity. No women desiring you isn’t everything and no men not wanting to fight you isn’t everything either but they are something and they count. Males like to delude themselves into thinking that this isn’t true but it is.
Don’t be that fat bearded guy who thinks he’s manly because he’s big enough the average guy doesn’t give him shit and can swill a lot of beer, and yet women find him disgusting. The reason women find him disgusting is because a big fat guy like him would get torn to shreds should a wild animal attack him, he’d get torn to shreds should a tribe of men (real men) come by, and so on and so forth. He is disgusting to women because of his lack of masculinity. Remember it’s not about what women say it’s about what they do and actually respond to that can tell you things.
Women Have Something To Offer
To masculinity, again not through their words but through their primal and ancient subconscious actions and reactions. It’s not everything but there is something there and only a fool would deny this. Now I know some guys will say something like this. “Well women like those smooth talking guys who aren’t that manly more than me”. Guess what bub they’re probably more manly than you. You have some weight and a beard that don’t make you a man. And yeah a smooth talker is going to attract women more than a drone because even if he has only a little masculinity he at least has something there.
Of course women will always first and foremost be attracted to the savages, outlaws, barbarians, bad boys, and the like because of their unapologetic masculinity. And by attracted I don’t mean blows him for a house, car, and/or status I mean primally wet for. The kind they cheat on the drone, smooth talker, rich guy, and all of them with (or want to) and always hope deep down in their hearts will come sweep them away from their masculinity free lives. Again always exceptions and the like but I’m describing literally a species wide trend. Most/many/some women probably won’t admit this or even be aware of it but that doesn’t mean it isn’t there. You get the point and taking action on these principles will allow you to see this in the real world.
Don’t Rationalize Failure Or Weakness Of Any Kind
Can’t get laid?…bubba you got a problem.
Can’t get money?…bubba you got a problem.
Can’t win a fight?…bubba you got a problem.
Can’t find strong men who would be proud to call you brother?…bubba you got a problem.
And so on and so forth. Don’t rationalize failure or weakness of any kind and stop pretending the thing you suck at doesn’t matter. Because it does often more than you’d think. And stop thinking women have nothing to offer because of misinterpretations or bad examples because at the end of the day here’s the thing. What do women want? Masculinity, sure they may say they want the nice clean shaven domesticated man but they’ll fuck the outlaw bad ass bad boy every time. Women vote with their vaginas this way for what is masculine. Just as men vote with their dick what is feminine combined with (or perhaps because of) what has made us survive as a species for so long.
The more masculine a man is the more feminine a woman is in response and the more attraction there is between the two. So if you can’t get laid stop pretending like you’re as masculine as you can be because you absolutely are not, especially considering how little masculinity it takes to absolutely clean up anymore. So does getting laid define masculinity? Nope, but it counts for something and pretending otherwise means you’re not man enough to be honest and face down your weaknesses. Again not everything but it’s something.
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-Charles Sledge
