Time is our most valuable asset. Wasting time is worse than wasting money as money you can always make more of but time you can never get back. You should never treat your time cheaply, your time is more valuable than silver or gold. So whatever you do you must always be asking yourself this question. “Is this a productive use of my time?”. Things like watching mindless videos on YouTube, seeing what’s trending on Twitter, watching mindless agenda driven television, or the worst of television watching the news are obviously not productive uses of your time. Even the average person knows that, even if they don’t follow their own advice.
But to be successful and stand out from the pack. To become the leader of the pack or a lone wolf that can survive you have be an even harsher judge with how you use your time. Anything that does not further your goals needs to be cut ruthlessly from your life. This could unfortunately be friends and family. But until you have what it is you want you cannot afford to be sidetracked by others. Social media may have to go as well, unless of course it used to build your business and further your goals but even then be careful.
Ruthless With Your Time
Imagine you had a bag of rocks. Without these rocks you would die. So you always keep these rocks on a bag at your waist. Now let’s say someone comes up and asks for some of your rocks. What would you say? “Sure no problem take all you want”. Now most people would say “Well of course not that’d be crazy” yet that is what people do everyday. Once your time is up, it’s up there is no do overs. It doesn’t matter if that time was spent traveling the world, bedding beautiful women, and expanding your mind or tied down supporting a wife you hate (and has mutual feelings for you), solving your family’s dysfunctions, and serving your community (who could give two shits about you). When it’s over, it’s over.
You can’t say but hey I spent my time helping my family with their issues or I spent my time doing good things for people. Time doesn’t care. Which is why you must be ruthless with how you spend it. Your families problems are not your own and your friends problems are not your own. Other people have a much higher potential to crash your rise to success than to aid in it. Does this mean become a hermit? No, not necessarily however it does mean ruthlessly judging how you spend your time and who you spend it with.
Setting Boundaries
Weak males get walked on, by women, by friends, by family, by other males, by the world. A man must set boundaries and then stick to them. Some of the most important boundaries are going to be who he spends his time with and how he spends it. Most people aren’t worth my time in any way, shape, or form. That’s the truth. It might sound cocky or arrogant or whatever but I don’t care. I have one life to live and I’m going to get the most out of it. The feelings of others should never cloud your decisions or be let to control you, you must go your own path.
You spend your time only with people who bring value. Nine ninety times out of ten I’d rather sit down with a book than someone I have met. I have few friends and that’s for a reason. Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying to be an ass to everyone and would recommend the opposite. However when it comes to actually getting close and doing things with, things become very different. I’ll be polite and say “hi” to anyone but to actually have a relationship with me is an entirely different game.
Summary
Don’t waste your time. You can never get it back. You know watching most TV, perusing social media, and the like are not effective uses of your time but you also must watch out for other sources. Family members who want you to solve their problems, friends who want to sit around and do nothing, and many more. You have to live your life as you see fit and not give a damn what others think. Establish boundaries with how you spend your time and who you spend it with.
Sitting around playing video games, listening to some girls problems, or helping a family member become even more codependent are not effective uses of your time. Cut them off. Focus on your goals and your success, then when you have achieved it you can spend your time in a more liberal manner but not before then. Until that time comes you must be ruthless with how your time is used.
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-Charles Sledge
