Why do I say male instead of man? Well because more often than not this is something that a man would rarely (we all have weak moments) if ever do. Now depending on where you come from there could be all sorts of thoughts swirling around in your head. In you come from 90’s parody “masculinity” then it could be something as arbitrary as eating a certain food or wearing a certain article of clothing.
However masculinity is something far deeper than that. And something that has far more meaning. Perhaps there are certain actions that you’re thinking of at the moment. Let an insult go unaddressed. Let his family fall apart. Let his boss take advantage of him. Or a million other things and while all of those things may or may not have something to do with masculinity, that’s not what we’re getting at here.
No one single action isn’t going to cut it alone. Unless that action can also fit in many different actions that stem from the same source. Otherwise it won’t do for the single least masculine thing that a male can do. So with all of that being said, what is it then? What is this one thing that above all others is the least masculine thing that a male can do?
The Least Masculine Thing A Man Can Do
The least masculine thing that a man can do is whine. Now at first this might seem a bit out there. You might be thinking “Really whining? Over all these other things?”. But let me explain because whining/crying/giving up and complaining or whatever you want to call it all cover a whole lot of territory. Including things like disrespect and the like that I’m sure at least passed through your mind.
Now what is it about whining that’s so “unmasculine” especially when compared with all of the many things out there. And what is the difference between say crying (as in literally crying from sorrow) and whining/crying. Well the first is in no way inherently not masculine, after all it’s a basic human response to a basic human emotion (not to say crying makes one masculine either but that’s a whole other topic).
Let’s look at what men do for starters. Men are many things to borrow from a popular book they are kings, warriors, lovers, creators (magicians), builders, protectors, providers, and a whole bunch of other things. Men effect the world around them, they build and shape the world around them. Not just things like buildings and the landscape but also the ideas and even souls of the people of various cultures, tribes, and people groups.
Men’s Mission
This has been what man has done since the beginning and it is what men will do until the very end. They set about to “make the world in their own image” through their will. Sometimes this is through strength of arm, strength of mind, or a great many other things. But man affects the world around him, sculpts and shapes it as the creator did to the soul of man himself. So when a male complains instead of rides out to change things he is abanoning his cosmic and primal function.
Essentially he ceases to be a man, a spiritual neutering of sorts. His function ceases. And not “function” as in usefulness to a society or certain individuals but in a primal and cosmic sense. This isn’t to say one can never bitch as long as that is not all that one does. As long as one gets up and gets going on about changing whatever they’re bitching about or shuts up about it. There are many groups out there that all they do is provide a space for males to whine and bitch instead of going about changing things.
And these groups are a great threat to masculinity. Anyone or group or place that says whining and commiserating are good things (which is different than bitching every now and then which we all do) is a group, person, or place that you should stay away from for the sake of your health and masculinity. Men do not whine, bitch, moan, and cry they go out and get things done or they shut up about it. They fix the problems in their lives, relationships, and so on and so forth.
This isn’t to say there isn’t a time to literally cry, or that there’s anything wrong with bitching now and then, or that processing one’s emotions aren’t important (they are). This is just saying sitting around and stewing in whining and complaining does no one any good (especially yourself) and is the least masculine thing a male can do.
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-Charles Sledge
