All things in nature go through stages of development. They go from infant to preadolescence to adolescent to eventually adult. This holds true for things beyond the physical realm as well. Whether ideas, thoughts, or even a soul. All things go through ebbs and flows and are constantly growing or stagnating or changing in some way. While this is most obvious in the physical world it holds true all across.
The same is true of manhood and masculinity. I’ve talked about this a bit in going beyond the whole get girls/money/ripped stage into a further stage of development (once that staged has been mastered of course) as many discount that stage simply because they weren’t successful at it rather than because it doesn’t matter at all. However there is a time and place to go beyond this.
There comes a time when a man realizes that making more cash, bedding more women, or simply having more life experiences for the simple sake of having those life experiences isn’t enough and he’s going to need more to keep himself moving forward (not that those things won’t necessarily be part of his life, just not the focus). Here I want to briefly outline so lines of development for you to think about for yourself.
Developing As A Man
One problem with most modern youths is that they’ve never had a chance to prove themselves and to prove their worth as a man. Therefore they remain insecure in their masculinity and all sorts of trouble stems from that. This is one reason that I’m such a fan of combat sports as well as the military while they’re not as good as rituals and intitiation rites of old they do at least offer males a chance to get “blooded” and become secure in themselves and their manhood.
And much of success in career, with women, and respect from other men stems from this ability to be secure in one’s manhood, strength, and self. Many males try to jump past this and dive into philosophy and the like before affirming and being secure in their manhood which is putting the cart before the horse. We’ve all seen the skinny 20 something pontificating about things he has no clue about.
Part of this is from youth but there is more than just that. And that is not to say one can not have those interests beforehand simply that there are certain stages of development that most go through. And one comes before the other for “straightest” and best development. At some point that’ll be the get girls/money/ripped etc. stage and that’s just fine as long as one doesn’t get caught there forever and realizes those things are easy and just side parts to a man’s life.
Going Further
But once one gets past the get girls/money/ripped stage where does one go? Ruminate on the meaning of life? Develop one’s passions? Start a family/business/legacy? Well frankly it could be any of these things and they’ll all likely have a part to play in it but I’d say it’s something even more. I know I’ve talked about this a ton but a good part of this is going to be bringing into the world the “song” that is in one’s soul.
We’re all created uniquely and yes in a way we all are “special snowflakes” at least on the soul level (granted that one’s soul is intact which is hard in the modern world which “preserves” the body but destroys the soul). We all have a unique “call/mission/whatever” that we’ll never be truly fulfilled if we do not at least chase after it.
We’ll die with the song still in our hearts and full of regret. Ironically the chasing of this song (tempered with life experience, strength, and wisdom) provides a man for most that he could ever ask for. The pursuit of a dream and eschewing comfort for the chasing and attainment of that dream. When a man does this he’ll often find little trouble finding the money to get by, attracting women, or keeping himself in decent shape. So regardless of what stage that you’re in, it’s something to keep in mind.
