How Do You Raise A Child To Be Good, Strong, & Wise?

As I move through life my desires and thoughts change. Whereas once how to make more money or get more “gains” in the gym might have been the things that preoccupied me, more and more it is more things. How do you raise children than are going to stand a chance in this world? Where is a good place to start a family? What’s the difference between cultures and where does decay and rebellion against the cosmic/primal order come from? And so on and so forth.

Not that I won’t write about those other topics or that I don’t have thoughts or things I want to share about them, just that the general focus of my life has changed. And some of those topics I feel I and others have just about done to death. Something I’ve been thinking about more and more is raising a child in the proper way in this world. Having taught, coached, and just been alive in this world it’s very obvious that very few are being raised right. Granted that easier said than done but I’ve seen parenting outsourced to schools, churches, peers, and the media from so many.

And then these parents are surprised when their kids turn out differently than they expected. But what about those that put effort into raising their kids? I’ve seen many arguments for different ways to raise your children and what is prioritized and it’s something that I’ve been thinking more and more about. For example three things that I talk about that you should cultivate in your own life are wisdom, strength, and goodness/honor (or whatever you want to call it). But how do you build and transmit these things into your children?

The Problem That I See

I’ll see kids who are good kids. They’re hardworking and honest and generally sharp but at the same time they’re soft as butter and don’t have a good understanding of how the world works, they’re naive and get torn to bits by the real world. I’ve also seen kids who are toughened and get how the world works but are limited in their expression and end up places they don’t want to be because they lack thought, knowledge, and don’t understand their options. It seems like a dichotomy that you have to choose between.

I’ve heard parents that want to homeschool their children or raise them in religious homes. I think this CAN be a good thing but can also backfire horrible depending on how its done. Or even when it doesn’t backfire horribly I still think they’re end up incomplete. You’ll need to address toughness, how the world works and the horribleness of it (and how to get them to believe and see this), as well as how people work and social skills. Naivety and weakness are always going to be punished in this world and I think it’s important your kids get that.

Something homeschooling and religion prevents them from seeing. However with those things accounted for then I guess that route isn’t the worst. They’ll be smart as shit (unlike me) and keep their creativity and other good facets as well. They won’t be infected by the rot as much and they’ll get a true honor/moral education. But again you have to address what is lacking. On the other hand if you want your kid exposed to world as soon as possible you’ll also have to account for things.

For example school makes kids dumber not smarter, at least intellectually. School is made to dumb them down and get them to be worker bees at best. It destroys creativity and intellectual thought. Plus there are plenty of kids in normal school who are still soft and naive as to how the world works. My point being you can’t outsource this and that no matter what you’ll have to address things that they aren’t getting but that they need. But this can also be a problem.

The Transmission & Balance

For most of human history children were socialized with their parents and families. The boys would work the fields or go on the hunt with their fathers, uncles, cousins, and sometimes others. They were taught how the world worked and wisdom was transmitted to them. And they were the better for this. Then industrialization came along and stripped this bond and has been stripping it ever since. Many parents have to work and barely see their kids except for when they’re exhausted at night. This was done by design so that others could have influence to kids but that’s a topic for another time.

Meaning that it can be hard to give your child all that they need. Sure working towards financial independence and a location independent job would be great but isn’t feasible for everyone or won’t be until in a short enough time. We won’t even go into parents kept from their children because of divorce and corrupt court systems. Another reason why hosing who you marry is so critical. But even with seeming like the entire modern world conspires to rip the bond between parent and child there is still things you can do. The first and greatest is be an example.

Be strong, wise, and good/honorable yourself and that will transfer to your child, it’s important to have a spouse who has these qualities as well. Goodness is the most important one as wisdom and strength can be taught. Spending time with your children you’ll transmit these things to them. See weak areas and areas where you can help and provide guidance in a firm but loving way. I’m not expert at this by any means just saying what I’ve seen in my life and with others. Just through observation.

I Don’t Have The Answer I’m Just Posing The Question

I don’t have the answer to everything that I’m posing here, it’s just something that I’ve been wondering more and more about. The world will seek out any weakness and exploit it, in you, your children, your family unit as a whole, and anything else. You have to be prepared in every way and you have to prepare them in every way. If they’re good but naive they’ll be corrupted, exploited, or destroyed. If they’re good but weak they’ll be bullied, run over, and destroyed. If they’re strong and wise but lack honor and goodness they’ll be untrustworthy, dishonorable, and destroyed by themselves.

Weakness is not tolerated in this world, weakness in any major form. Naivety is punished even more so then lack of character. It’s important that more parents get this. Especially those that live in Western countries, especially America, which has been living in a bubble for a very long time now. And bubbles burst and when they do it’s not always pretty. These are just some things that I’ve been wondering about and that I feel most males should. Regardless if you don’t have kids or do. Because we have to live in a society with people that do and that’ll determine the future.

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-Charles Sledge