I wanted to put together some thoughts on how a marriage minded man can find a good wife in the modern world. Granted I’ve written a book on this subject but I wanted to revisit it and lay out some more things as well as simplify the process. Now I know that essays/books/articles like this cause all kinds of shrieking in the assorted men’s self-improvement spheres but rest assured shrieking to the aside finding a woman worth marrying is still something that can be done.
And honestly it’s kind of dramatic to think otherwise. Now that doesn’t mean that it’ll be easy (the real problem red pill types (and all others) have with this idea) but if it’s what you truly want then you’ll be able to live this life. But it won’t come from going your own way playing video games and watching porn in your mom’s basement talking about how awful women are on the internet.
It will start with hard work on yourself and being smart about a few key things. Like I said it’s not going to be easy or something that’s just going to be handed to you on a silver platter. And despite “traditionalists” crying/whining to the contrary it has never been this way. Man has always had to work for a wife, especially one that is worth having. So granted that this is something that you want and are willing to work for, let’s begin to journey to finding your unicorn.
Covering The Bases
Let’s get one thing straight chaste virgins with character have never been lining up for dorky losers. Not in the 50’s, not in the 1800’s, certainly not in prehistory, and certainly not now. So just get that out of your head to start with. If you want something of high value then you must be of high value yourself. It’s as simple as that. This requires a couple of different things.
First off covering the basics with actually being an attractive man. Do you have hobbies and passions that are interesting and add to your life and development (AKA something like painting or singing not video games)? Do you keep yourself in somewhat decent shape (are you fat or scrawny?)? Do you carry yourself as a man or are you frankly lacking in this trait? Are you confident? Ballsy? Charming? And so on and so forth.
If you don’t have your bases covered in this area then please forget about attracting a woman who’d make a good wife. This is a two way thing. So yeah for some guys this will require putting in some work on themselves (which is something that you should be doing anyways). You don’t have to be Mr. Super Stud or anything but again at the very least you have to have your bases covered.
Deprogramming Nonsense
Another thing that’ll get in your way in faulty thinking and ideology. This goes both ways. Whether mainstream thinking or faulty alternative ideology thinking. If anyone telling you a girl might be worthy marrying has you shrieking “AWALT” in a corner that’s just as bad as you going on a diatribe about the patriarchy every time marriage is mentioned. This isn’t to say don’t be sober minded.
We do not live in a marriage minded society with marriage minded people. That’s just a fact so you do have to tread carefully and be smart. But at the same time understand that this is very possible with the right actions, thought process, and foresight. You have to strike a healthy balance. Women aren’t holy goddesses whom evil males are unworthy of nor are they all evil sluts that are just out to divorce rape you.
Again, balance. Also understand that the more than you work on yourself and understand about the underlying dynamics between men and women the better off you’ll be and the higher quality woman that you’ll be able to attract. But without this don’t bother with it and don’t whine and complain about it either. Before looking out there, make sure that you have something to offer in the first place.
Ante In
This is the “ante in” to finding and attracting a marriageable woman. A lot of guys will balk at this but it’s the truth. Just like having a harem (no matter if small or low quality, which let’s be honest even the “players” pimping advice may or may not have) requires work so does having a good marriage to a woman that will make a good wife. This shouldn’t be a surprise.
This life and world requires that you work and fight for everything that you have. Some are lucky to learn this as children, others have to learn later in life. But the sooner that you get this the better off that you’ll be. Nothing worth it comes easy and a good marriage to a good woman is no exception, don’t expect it to be.
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-Charles Sledge
