I am not married, I have no sons or daughters. And will have none of those things for quite some time most likely. So why am I writing an essay about being the alpha of your family? Well a couple of reasons. First off before going on I want to point out if you are a father and husband that you should check out Hunter Drew’s The Family Alpha an amazing resource that’ll tell you everything you need to know about being the alpha of your immediate family and obviously the inspiration for the title of this essay. But with that being said that is not what this essay is about.
This is for those that are neither fathers nor husbands but still have a family. I was thinking about this after hanging out with extended family and thinking about the impact that you have on them. I’m talking about cousins (male and female), nieces, nephews, and the like. I come from a large rural family where family bonds run deep. Even if you don’t have this these principles still apply even if all you have is a group of brothers who you consider family.
The Alpha Of The Tribe
Without strong men everything goes to shit civilizations, one on one relationships, and anything and everything else. And families are no exception. Unfortunately there are not a lot of strong men out there now and because of this we see much of the destruction that we are currently witnessing. Without a shining example of masculinity to guide them men and women go astray. Every family needs at least one bad ass patriarch to unite them. I think it’s unfortunate that when the term “patriarch” some old bearded middle eastern dude pops up in most peoples mind.
What I have in mind is something completely different. Something stronger and more virile. Someone who the family follows and unites around because of the shining example of uncompromising masculinity that he is. Someone who the other tribes piss their pants when they think about him. That to me is a patriarch and until men like that are restored there will be no “patriarchy”. The alpha of the tribe. The one the males of the tribe want to be like and the one the females of the tribe want to end up someone like him.
Be The Baddest Motherfucker They Know
This doesn’t mean you can beat up everyone in the world (always someone tougher than you no matter who you are) but rather a combination of things (though obviously you should be able to beat up 90% of people outside the tribe). In their mind you should be the baddest motherfucker that they know and will ever know of. The patriarch by merit. You should cast a shadow that covers everything that they know. Not a shadow in a bad way but in a good way. You want to be that incomparable god that no one will ever measure up to. Every family needs a alpha/patriarch (in my definition they’re one and the same) and yours is no exception.
You should be greater than anything that the modern world will offer them. You should be an example of what is possible and real. They need guidance and a centralizing protecting force. Doesn’t matter whether they’re male, female, younger, older, or anything else. Of course it’s more important for those around your age and younger than you but never underestimate how wide of an impact that you have. You must be the leader and the strength that the family draws from (different from having them dependent on you, you’re an inspiration not a enabler).
Summary
Your influence stretches much further than you think. When you work on yourself and be the best that you can be in every you are not only doing it for yourself but also for your family, your tribe, and your brothers. Likewise when you are weak it reflects on all those people poorly. Be the alpha for your family the future may very well depend on it. Leave a legacy and set an example that will never be forgotten as to what a man and a leader is. Be the bad ass outlaw that is their own.
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-Charles Sledge
