This is a guest post from Jad of The Alpha Life.com a website dedicated to helping men find success in the arenas of dating, wealth, and fitness. In this article Jad talks about how to find the type of girl that you want. Enjoy.
I will start with the bad news! She’s not little Amy your coworkers in your shitty job, she’s not your cousin friend and she’s not your bro’s girlfriend friend that she bring with on a double date cause she doesn’t have elsewhere to go.
In summary, the girl of your dreams, the type of girl you would to date are out-here, but, you will not meet her through your social circle unless you would like to settle for an average girl that will put you in a toxic relationship where manipulation and lot of shit happens.
If you want to attract the kind of women that you DESIRE into your life…Then creating an abundance mentality is the key PRINCIPLE you should start following right now.
When you lack abundance, you live in scarcity and scarcity lead into bad relationships.
Having an abundance mindset means having many girls that you can date, and where you have the choice to pick the right one to be your girlfriend, and in case she left you, worry less because you have so many other options.
Now that you have a social circle full of girls it’s easier to meet more attractive girls because you already have the value and social proof, and more women will start to value you. Once you start meeting many women, the possibilities of having relationships will rise, in parallel your personality and confidence will increase.
Never believe that one special girl is the “one.”
Hopefully, you will meet a special girl, and you will have great chemistry with, you can call her you ” soulmate”, but never believe that she’s the only one that can make you happy, never believe that in case she breaks up with you, your life will be hell. Doing so will get you into a toxic relationship where manipulation takes place from both sides.
Don’t fall into the scarcity trap, don’t let go of your true masculinity and abundance lifestyle in order to stay with a girl you thought she’s the one for you. Scarcity will make have some irrational insecurities. You will start getting extremely jealous, you will start getting needy, and that will decrease your value and attraction from women.
Most men are wandering around, chasing one girl for months or even years, waiting for that special day when she will know their inner values and see them as a potential sexual partner. These guys are missing the point that a man with options is an attractive man. Girls are always curious about that one guy who hang out with lots of women, in the girl mind she’s thinking that there must be something special about him to have all of these women wanting and chasing him, and she will desperate to go figure out what it is so that I can make him chase. Well, the special thing is the abundance mindset.
So how to get that “abundance mindset”?
- Approach more girls…You don’t have to go out to bars and club every day to meet women, you just can approach on you regular day any girl you see and like. Surely you will get rejected sometimes but definitely, it will lead to abundance with women.
- Relocate to a bigger city… If you live in a small town, the chances of meeting hot women are small, and here we are talking about playing the big game. So move from your small nest, big cities are also a great place to expand your social network and have more learning and business opportunities.
- Use technology apps like tinder and other applications only if you have a cool lifestyle, reflecting this cool lifestyle in photos using these apps will give a big chance of meeting a lot of girls.
- Friendzone girls. Not all girl you meet can be potential partners, instead, they can be your friends. This will allow you to meet there social circle and meeting more girls… Also if some girls are not into you…Its fine don’t get butt-hurt, be a good friend for them and the same benefits will apply.
- Maxing out your looks, style, and status will ensure that more women are attracted to you.
- Have a cool lifestyle…Practice some social hobbies, attend seminars and events. Meeting people in general is a great way to increase confidence especially with women
If you don’t want to settle for a shitty relationship, you have to go through the painful process of learning and growing and challenging yourself. Go out and expose yourself, date the type of girls you like then get truly in-control of your dating life, and have the comfort that comes from knowing that you have an absolute abundance of the world’s most amazing women.
