I kind of like this. The only thing I would add is that I think more important than ‘how to fight’ is ‘when to fight’, and maybe ‘how to avoid fighting’. I grew up in a very dangerous place, and learned very quickly how to anticipate threat. If you are forced to fight you are in a bad place, and a very uncertain place. For example you can never be sure who the other guy is or worse still what he has concealed in his pocket, or where his four friends are. You should only get there if there are no other options. How to fight is very important though because just having that confidence often defuses the threat. If someone reads that you can’t or won’t fight you are dead – possibly literally.
Absolutely!
That’s a great point Arthur. Avoidance and awareness are just as if not even more important than knowing how to defend oneself.
I like your point on fitness.
So many of blogs like ours make the reader assume that lifting weights will instantly make you a “manly man”
Its a tool. Having a strong body is important, but if you’re jacked and have no people skills or logic, you’re fucked.
I love lifting, but it needs to be just like eating healthy, just something you do. Who you are comes from within.
Exactly, a great tool but not the end goal.
Good stuff Charles. I would also add – become a Master of your money instead of a Slave to it. In today’s world having a solid financial framework for your life is an essential for a man to excel. No need to be rich, but one should strive for control and a measure of prosperity. Spend less than you earn, avoid debt and invest the rest.
Great advice, financial independence is the goal. Not being a slave with lots of cash.
Great post, unorthodox skills. I’m currently working on 1 (writing and speaking) and 9, any sources you recommend for attaining those?
Also, how did your blog get on manosphere.com? I tried emailing the email provided but it keeps failing to send.
Thanks
Sent an e-mail, that’s weird. Maybe it was down for a bit.
For speaking if you have a local toastmasters club I would recommend them as well as public speaking for success by Dale Carnegie.
For writing I would recommend writing everyday even if it’s only a couple of paragraphs and the classic guide to better writing by Rudolf Flesch (he has a couple of great books on writing all worth reading).
Great, thanks for the recommendations!
Man , your blog is fucking changing my life…my thoughts..visions of the world…i dont give a fuck about what happened on my past anymore..i m truly happy that i m on the right track..far away from societys ilusions..it could be cool to know about yourself a bit more…we our readers get a lot of real strenght from your words and wisdom, and its a fact that you are making us stronger, more masculine, diciplined and free individuals with every post you do…you are starting to change in my life from some blogger who writes cool stuff to a true light of hope in a dark and confusing world, and my favorite blogger (and i read a hell lot of blogs).I have no words , you remember me the allegory of the cave…i dont like to pedestalize people but the changes you are feeding on my mind, my body and life in general are fucking crazy.Who the fuck are you?
Thanks Ivan, I’m humbled. And I’m just a guy who has worked hard for what he has and wants to show others how to achieve what I have. Sort of like leaving breadcrumbs for others to follow.
I kind of like this. The only thing I would add is that I think more important than ‘how to fight’ is ‘when to fight’, and maybe ‘how to avoid fighting’. I grew up in a very dangerous place, and learned very quickly how to anticipate threat. If you are forced to fight you are in a bad place, and a very uncertain place. For example you can never be sure who the other guy is or worse still what he has concealed in his pocket, or where his four friends are. You should only get there if there are no other options. How to fight is very important though because just having that confidence often defuses the threat. If someone reads that you can’t or won’t fight you are dead – possibly literally.
Absolutely!
That’s a great point Arthur. Avoidance and awareness are just as if not even more important than knowing how to defend oneself.
I like your point on fitness.
So many of blogs like ours make the reader assume that lifting weights will instantly make you a “manly man”
Its a tool. Having a strong body is important, but if you’re jacked and have no people skills or logic, you’re fucked.
I love lifting, but it needs to be just like eating healthy, just something you do. Who you are comes from within.
Exactly, a great tool but not the end goal.
Good stuff Charles. I would also add – become a Master of your money instead of a Slave to it. In today’s world having a solid financial framework for your life is an essential for a man to excel. No need to be rich, but one should strive for control and a measure of prosperity. Spend less than you earn, avoid debt and invest the rest.
Great advice, financial independence is the goal. Not being a slave with lots of cash.
Great post, unorthodox skills. I’m currently working on 1 (writing and speaking) and 9, any sources you recommend for attaining those?
Also, how did your blog get on manosphere.com? I tried emailing the email provided but it keeps failing to send.
Thanks
Sent an e-mail, that’s weird. Maybe it was down for a bit.
For speaking if you have a local toastmasters club I would recommend them as well as public speaking for success by Dale Carnegie.
For writing I would recommend writing everyday even if it’s only a couple of paragraphs and the classic guide to better writing by Rudolf Flesch (he has a couple of great books on writing all worth reading).
Great, thanks for the recommendations!
Man , your blog is fucking changing my life…my thoughts..visions of the world…i dont give a fuck about what happened on my past anymore..i m truly happy that i m on the right track..far away from societys ilusions..it could be cool to know about yourself a bit more…we our readers get a lot of real strenght from your words and wisdom, and its a fact that you are making us stronger, more masculine, diciplined and free individuals with every post you do…you are starting to change in my life from some blogger who writes cool stuff to a true light of hope in a dark and confusing world, and my favorite blogger (and i read a hell lot of blogs).I have no words , you remember me the allegory of the cave…i dont like to pedestalize people but the changes you are feeding on my mind, my body and life in general are fucking crazy.Who the fuck are you?
Thanks Ivan, I’m humbled. And I’m just a guy who has worked hard for what he has and wants to show others how to achieve what I have. Sort of like leaving breadcrumbs for others to follow.