Alright so pretty much everyone knows that there is a correlation between testosterone levels and sex drive. How deep and important the correlation is may be a mystery many but most understand that there is at least a connection. However what most do not understand is that the vast majority of issues that modern males have with women (in particular not having the sex life they want with the women they want) stems from having low levels of testosterone. Sure other things play a role but nothing plays as important or as large of a role as testosterone. No dating coach will tell you this (as it would destroy his business model) but it’s the truth.
There is a war on masculinity (and therefore testosterone). There could be (and is) multiple books written on the subject. Because of this many males today have never had healthy proper testosterone levels. It has be struck out of them from a variety of sources. From the schools, to the media, to the government, and more. Testosterone levels have been plummiting for the last 25 years (and longer then that). The average male does not have the same level of testosterone that his father had at his age and certainly not his grandfather. This leads to a whole host of negative effects throughout society. Here we are going to address men not having the sex life that they want.
The “Natural”
The concept of a “dating coach” would be completely foreigh to my father and grandfather and was completely foreign to me for the longest time. A boxing coach sure, a sales trainer alright, even a nutritionalist getting a little out there but whatever, but a dating coach? To men with high testosterone a dating coach would be like having a coach to use the restroom or swallow your food. Something that is done naturally and not something you put any thought into. What dating coaches call “naturals” are simply guys with high testosterone. Simple as that. Guys with high testosterone never think about lines or techniques, they simply are and women are attracted to them.
It’s natural. How it was always supposed to be. Women are attracted to testosterone. They want manly masculine men meaning men with high testosterone. To get the sex life he wants with the women he wants a guy would be better off raising his testosterone then he would getting on any dating program or with any dating coach in the world. Success with women stems from masculinity, success with women stems from testosterone. The sooner a guy gets this the better off he’ll be. Many males spend a good chunk of their life chasing after women with a myriad of different techniques and theories but they get him little to no success. Only masculinity and testosterone will get him what he wants in that area of his life.
Libido & Testosterone
Your libido and sex drive is directly correlated to how high your testosterone is. Look at it like this the guys who sleep with the most women are the guys with the highest levels of testosterone plain and simple. The higher your testosterone the more you want sex, the more you want sex the more you’ll go out and get it. If you want something more you’ll go after it more. The guy who has to pee five times a day is going to go to the rest room more than the guy who has to pee once a day. Doesn’t matter how close each guy is to the bathroom or what kind of bathroom they use. Guys with higher testosterone are going to have more sex, more frequently than guys with high testosterone.
Take a guy with great “game” but with average testosterone levels and put him against a guy who has no idea what “game” is but has high testosterone levels. And the guy with higher testosterone levels is going to sleep with more women at the end of the month every time. Trying to get good at game or dating is a hamster wheel. It’s like pressing on the accelerator harder and harder or changing out tires when the car doesn’t even have an engine. The more you have testosterone the more you’re going to get after it (and actually get it) so if you’re one of those guys who’s not having the success with women he wants. Drop the dating coach and learn how to increase your testosterone.
How To Be In The Top Tier Of Guys
There is a sexual pyramid if you will. Meaning that there are guys at the top and guys at the bottom. The men at the top are the twenty percent of guys that sleep with eighty percent of women. The males at the bottom are the eighty percent of guys who settle for the twenty percent scraps that the top guys didn’t want. It’s not fair but it is life. The main thing that separates the guys at the top from the guys at the bottom is their testosterone levels. The guys at the top are the guys with high testosterone levels and the guys at the bottom are the guys with low testosterone levels.
There are different ways to get into the top but the absolute best and quickest way is to get your testosterone levels up. Eighty percent of “game” or whatever you want to call it (sexual success with women) is having high levels of testosterone. Not memorizing complex theories, not having a harmonious inner self, not lines, not anything but having high levels of testosterone (being a man). That’s it. The more people that find this out the better off everyone will be (except those who make their living pushing products on picking up women and such).
Summary
This is the pareto principle when applies to sexual success with women. Sure things like mindset and others things certainly have value and they matter but they are the eighty percent of effort that gets you twenty percent of results. It’s the high testosterone levels that are the twenty percent of effort that are going to give you eighty percent of results. Not to mention testosterone has tons of other benefits far beyond your dating and sex life. Get this right and many other things will fall into place. Remember be a man and everything else will fall into place. Your sex life is no exception.
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-Charles Sledge
I agree that testosterone has been decreasing…but (I know we talked a little before about this): I think an equally frustrating part of game is that the average women’s ego’s have been too inflated and their standards have become too unattainable. I feel like women will not find a much better catch than me (as I have always been the most masculine guy in my circle and have built myself into a catch in all areas of life), but they still don’t seem to care or want to give me a chance… I get the sense that women today are always looking about to find the absolute top 1% when the are clearly guys of value like me all around her. So my point with these comments is: when are women going to cut their shit out and realize it’s time for them to get back to reality ?? because the guy they want probably doesn’t exist.
When they run out of options. As long as guys inflate their ego than nothing will change. So when white knights find their balls, so maybe never.