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A Step By Step Guide To Quitting Porn

A Step By Step Guide To Quitting Porn by Charles Sledge

Of the many things that our society promotes as good few are as detrimental to the health and well-being of males as pornography. There are a myriad of negative symptoms associated with or caused by porn usage. For example not being able to get hard and keep it up with a woman comes from the desensitization of your dopamine receptors that porn causes, shy bladder (where you can’t pee in front of others) because masturbating to porn has made you lose control of your dick, to not getting laid because you’ve wired your brain to chase pixels instead of real women. Porn can completely and utterly destroy one’s masculinity and manhood.

Because of this men need to know how to get rid of this thing from their lives. They need to not only understand the negative effects of porn but also know how to get out of the porn trap once they’re in it. How to cut themselves free of the web of porn so that they can live the lives that they want. This is just as important as educating those not yet in the trap about the dangers of it. Porn doesn’t add anything to your life, it only takes away. It stunts your growth and will keep you forever down if you let it. You have to take the fight to it and remember the battle is won and lost in the mind. And you ultimately have control of your mind.

The Why

First things first before anything you have to understand the why of why you’re quitting porn. Once you have the why down and understood it makes the how a whole lot easier. The why is after all where we get our motivation from. If I told you to go out and jump in a lake you’d say “What the hell for?”. If I told you that it was because you’d be a millionaire if you did and you believed me then you’d do it in a heartbeat. Why? Because I gave you a great answer to the question of “Why should I do this?” even if you worded it a bit differently. The more you understand about porn and it’s negative effects the easier it gets to cut it out of your life.

For example the first complaints I heard about porn were from feminists and very religious people two groups I’ve never listened to and never will. Talking about disrespecting women and other nonsense. But then when I found out it can keep me from having hard wood, prevent me from getting laid, and sap my masculinity in other ways suddenly my apathy turned to energy. Then I was sufficiently convinced to get rid of porn and get it out of my life. You have to understand what porn is holding you back from before you’re going to want to get rid of it.

You have to be sufficiently sold on the fact that porn is bad for you and that you don’t want it. Once you’re sold on the idea then everything begins to fall into place. My advice is to do as much research as possible into the negative effects of porn. Become in expert as to why porn sucks and is destructive to your masculinity and your life. Just off the top of my head it prevents you from having the sex life you want, hampers your development as a man, and gets your brain chasing pixels instead of flesh and blood.

The How

Once you’ve been sufficiently sold on the prospect of getting rid of porn then it’s time to bring in the how. My approach is different then most and hence why I think it’s more effective. So just ignoring your urges and trying to repress them isn’t going to do you any good. And not looking at women or wanting them is just freaking weird. Look you’re not going to become some ball-less eunuch like many would want you to do. There’s a better way. You’re sex drive is a good and healthy thing trying to get rid of it is unnatural, unmanly, and wrong.

Two things you are going to do. First off if you don’t know game (aka understanding women so you can have the sex life that you want) then you need to learn pronto. I have plenty of resources that will help you out with this just check. You are going to learn game like you were learning about the negative effects of porn. Because look if you can’t or think you can’t get girls in real life it’s going to make quitting porn one hundred times harder than it has to be. Why put yourself through the trouble?

Next you are going to find a project. Maybe it’s writing a book, growing a business, or getting to below 10% body fat. Point is you need to find something to channel your energy into (in addition to learning game and sleeping with the women you want). You need a project of some kind that you can direct yourself into. Something big and that has big rewards for you if/when completed. That way whenever you have energy you’ll direct it into this great project. Starting a business of some kind is a great option.

The Backup

Alright now with all that being said it’s still good to have some backup measures to help you down the line. These are methods and “tactics” that will help you with particularly hard times as well as the overall process. What is listed above this is far more important. The why is the most important and then the how and then coming in distant third is the backup. However with that being said it’d be foolish to not take advantage of every tool at your disposal to help you get rid of porn for good.

Alright so here are some things to do if you’re having a particularly strong urge. First and foremost go out and talk to girls. You having a sexual urge it’s about time you had that associated in your brain with something good. Use that sexual energy for what it was created for connecting with/having sex with real women. That’s the number one thing. But if you need a quick fix then there are other options. Cold showers, put the shower on the coldest setting there is, take a deep breath, and then jump in. Your urges will be gone instantly. Another option is to workout or having a repetitive movement you do until the urge goes away such as pushups. You’ll have the find what works for you personally.

Remember mind is the master. Here are some strategies to help reinforce your mind to make the overall process easier. First thing is affirmations. Simply write out a positive affirmation stating that you’ve quit porn and link it with a negative side effect of porn. So for example “I live porn free because having sex with real women is so much more fulfilling” or something of that nature. Have ten that you run through every morning and every night. Might seem weird but it has an effect. Another thing to do is journal and write down all the reasons that you’re quitting porn. This is something you could do once a week and review everyday or figure out a schedule of your own. It’s up to you.

Another thing to do is look to the future. Without porn you’re now making yourself attractive to real women and going after real women in addition to creating the life that you want for yourself. You’re going to end up a champion. Picture this and hold it in your mind. Then when/if an urge pops up have this grand vision to compare it to. Visualize the end result of all your hard work.

Summary

Quitting porn is going to be one of the best decisions that you make in life. It’s all upside. There is a long list of benefits and literally no downside. You’ll be more manly, get laid more, be happier, and so much more that I could go on for an entire book. Learn all that you can about the negative effects of porn remember the first step is getting you sold on the prospect that porn is bad for you and has no part in your life. This is the first and also the most important step. It’s going to be incredibly hard to achieve the other steps without this one because you’ll be fighting against yourself the entire time. It isn’t everything but it is important.

Then go out and take action. Go after the sex life you want with real women. Learn about game so that you know that you can date/sleep with the girls you want to date/sleep with. Have a project you are working on that you can direct your energy to. It’s not about suppression of energy but rather about redirection of energy. All these things work together making each more powerful in turn. And also don’t forget the backup ideas. While they won’t carry you on their own they still make great additions and can help you get through tough spots as well as make the overall process that much easier. Take advantage of them.

Cutting free of porn is a great move and many males first steps on the road to becoming all that they can be. You don’t want this drug keeping you down any longer. There is a great life to be lived and experienced. Every man who breaks out of the prison of porn does themselves a great service. Life is about constant ascension about growing stronger and better day in and day out. Quitting porn will put you on the fast track to success in all that you do.

If you have any questions you would like to see answered in a future post send them to me at charlessledge001 (at) gmail (dot) com. If you found value in this post then I would encourage you to share this site with someone who may need it as well as check out my books here. I appreciate it. You can follow me on Twitter here.

-Charles Sledge

Charles Sledge

  • Nikolai_

    couple questions:
    1_ where does non-porn but nevertheless stimulating images (think instagram girls) fit into all this?
    2_ what article-related advice can you give to men who due to spiritual or religious reasons refuse pre-marital sex?

    • 1. I’d avoid them. Sure they’re not technically porn but they’re not helping you either.
      2. I’m honestly not sure as I have no familiarity with it. One thing I will say is that you have to channel that energy into something like a business, works of art, or your self-development. A perfect example would be Tesla who as far I’ve heard was a virgin but pioneered his sexual energy into great achievements and thinking.