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Porn Is A Crutch

Porn Is A Crutch by Charles Sledge

Addictions or really even most bad habits simply come down to not being able to handle something. For example perhaps you smoke after a long day of work because you either don’t know healthier methods of stress relief or just don’t want to do them. You get drunk on the weekends because you need to release from the week and don’t have the social skills to have fun and release yourself without drinking. Porn is no exception. While the reason that you watch porn may vary from person to person it all comes back to the same thing. It’s because you can’t handle something. Put simply porn is a crutch.

It might be that you have been using porn as a stress relief but far more likely it has something to do with not having the sex life you want. I have failed to see anyone cut out porn from their life (without becoming some weird never have a sexual thought ever monk) without replacing porn with good looking women. This could be in a relationship or it could be with just having good game and knowing how to sleep with the women you want and get the sex life you want.

Porn Is A Crutch

Let’s be honest if you started out knowing all there was to know about women from the time you hit puberty and were having the sex life you wanted you probably wouldn’t have gotten into porn in the first place would you? Alright maybe you would have dabbled but after finding out all the negative effects about it you would have cut it out ASAP. Porn is a crutch many males use because they don’t understand women and therefore can’t get the women they want and the sex life that they want. Think about it how hard of a hit would the porn industry took if guys could get the sex they wanted? Or even just get laid period?

However as long as these guys stay on porn they are never going to develop the skills that they need to get off of it for good. Porn is used to fill a gap and to lean on because you don’t have the skills you need to get what you want in life. You use porn because you can’t compete in the real world. This may sound harsh but once you understand that it gives you power to give up porn and in what direction you need to take your life. Otherwise you’ll keep using porn as a crutch while never developing your skills you need to get what you want in life.

Develop Skills

If a guy got his source of porn cut off and wasn’t allowed to whack off you bet your add he’d find another way to get girls. Suddenly he’d be working harder to make money, get in shape, and he’d be going out a lot more. If he lived in his parent’s basement he’d work night and day to get out. If he was fat he work night and day to lose it. And if he was broke he’d work night and day to change that. After all sexual energy is the strongest and most potent of energies that a man has. Don’t waste it on porn instead use it to develop the skills that you need to live the life that you want.

Porn hides you from the truth, that you can’t get the sex life that you want because you don’t have the skills to do so. You need to throw away the crutch so that you can walk on your own. No one wants to hobble around through life. Not when you were born to be a sprinter and are entirely capable of that. Not that it’ll be easy but it will be worth it. Porn is like taking pain kills whenever you feel pain instead of getting to the root of the problem. Perhaps it’s inflammation, perhaps you need to lose weight, perhaps it’s something in your diet. Point is taking pain kills only prevents you from fixing what needs to be fixed.

Poisonous Crutch

Not only is porn a crutch but it’s a poisonous crutch. Here’s what I mean by that. Every time you lean on porn for support it rots away you strength a little more. Like a crutch that made you weaker every time you used it. Don’t get me wrong even if you’ve been using porn nonstop since puberty you can still cut it out, it’s just that every time you use it you’re getting more poison from that crutch. Throwing it off will make things better for you in every way, seeing where you are clearly and knowing what you need to address being one of the greatest benefits.

I know guys who stick to porn because they think they can’t get the sex life they want. Like a weak swimmer clinging to a rapidly deflating supposed “life preserver” in the ocean when in fact it’s a predator prying on your weakness. You have to start swimming on your own. Even if it’s hard at first. However nothing is going to change until you start seeing where you are clearly. If your situation sucks that’s fine there is no shame in that, there is no shame in that as long as you are taking action to better yourself and get where you want to go in life.

Summary

To succeed in life you have to develop certain skills. And porn (among other things) blocks you out from understanding and seeing what skills you need to develop. It holds you back from living the life that you want to live and developing the skills needed to get there. You can have the sex life and life that you want. Cutting out porn and working on developing yourself is the start to this. It may be hard at first but eventually you learn to stand on your own.

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-Charles Sledge

Charles Sledge

  • steve

    I definetly agree with the “because they feel they can’t the women they want”…but the other side-of-the-coin is: wouldn’t you agree have become way too hypergamous/too high-maintenance now adays ( that even if you’re a cool great guy, women still won’t give you the time of day)?…

    Because this is what has happened to me…I feel I’ve finally worked and built myself into a great catch compared to other guys, but yet it still doesn’t seem to matter to women because they still won’t give a chance and it’s like they don’t give a shit that I’ve worked hard to improve every aspect of myself. I’m seriously beginning to wonder if every woman out there (even the ugly ones) feels entitled to the best-looking in shape celebrity-type guy like Brad Pitt or Channing Tatum types. It’s unfortunately become that ridiculous !

    • Hmm that’s interesting. Good looks alone will not bring women to you. I’d have to know more about your situation to shed some light on what might be happening there. Feel free to e-mail me or respond in the comments.

      • steve

        I didn’t necessarily mean the celebrity good looks….it’s just the point that most women feeling so entitled when that entitled is unwarranted/unworthy of them. I see this dynamic play-out everyday because I work in a grocery store…. I see a lot of 3’s or 4’s now walk with an attitude that they actually think they’re hot shit, and also even the very ugly ones won’t give anyone the time of day…..While here I am I’ve built myself up into an 8 compared with most guys out there, and women won’t even give me any chance: so I really don’t know what the hell women think they deserve now adays.

        • Have you tried going after 9’s and 10’s. Once I became an attractive man (compared to where I had started at). I found that the lower tier girls would act bitchy and stand offish with me but it was because they were intimidated by me. So I changed my focus to the girls I wanted all along and had much better success. Who’d thought that a “9” would be easier than a “4” but that can be the way it works sometimes.

          • steve

            Yeah I’ve tried the 9-10’s (they’re extremely bitchy/snotty too), the only problem there is that throughout the whole year, I only see a couple girls I would consider 9 or 10.

          • Hmm, It could be a variety of things. If you want send me an email and we can go into an in depth discussion.

          • steve

            nah it’s alright…my whole point: women do not realize that the type of guy they feel entitled to does not fucking exist in reality. They want to obtain a 10 while they themselves are lucky to be a 3 or 4 at best.

          • Ah got ya.

  • This x1000 – when I cut porn out of my life it became so much easier to date pretty girls.

    • Absolutely. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg with all the benefits of quitting.