This is a chapter from my book How To Get Girls: The Definitive Guide. Enjoy.
Every man at some point in his relations with women is going to have to deal with shit tests and if he hopes to be successful with many women he is going to have to deal with a lot of them. For those who are wondering “what the hell is a shit test?” let me explain. Shit tests are essential when a woman tests you on something, when she calls you out on something to see how you react. For example you might be talking to her and she says she doesn’t date/fuck/whatever short/bald/whatever guys to see if she can break your frame. This is a shit test.
Most men fail shit tests as most men have been trained by the media, overbearing mothers, the government, the school systems, and just about everything else that he is supposed to give in too women. Despite that this goes against the natural order of how nature works. The woman gives into the man not vice versa. This false belief that men should give into women has given many men problems with their relations to women. They get stepped on or a woman loses all attraction for them because the man gives in to them. What I aim to do here is show you how to pass a shit test by asserting your masculinity and making women incredibly attracted to you.
Passing Shit Tests
When a girl is giving you a shit test, she is challenging you. What she is doing is testing your balls to see if you actually have any or to see if you’re going to be like ninety nine percent of guys and give in to her (in which case she loses all attraction). She is seeing if you are actually a man or if you are a little boy pretending to be a man. She wants to see your masculinity, that is why she is testing you. To see if there is masculinity there.
While a guy can just look at a woman and see if he is attracted to her it doesn’t work that way with women when seeing if a guy is attractive. So a shit test is to see if the guy is actually attractive. Imagine if all women wore burkas a shit test would be the male equivalent of seeing what was under the burka. Is she hot or not. That is what women are trying to see. Is he masculine (and therefore attractive) or is he submissive (and therefore repellent)?
Despite common belief shit tests are not a bad thing. She is trying to see who you are. So when you show her that you are a man and don’t give into her. She is going to respond by being even more attracted to. However if you give in to her she is going to lose whatever attraction she had for you in the first place. This works similarly to when you put a woman in her place. If you don’t she will lose attraction for you.
Maintain The Frame
To pass a shit test you simply must hold your masculine frame. Maintaining the frame is key in so many things in relations to women. From deciding what kind of relationship you want with them to their overall attraction, love, and desire for you. You as the man should have the stronger frame. Your frame should dominate her frame as the masculine dominates the feminine. Your frame and masculinity should conquer her frame and masculinity. This is how it was meant to be, this is how he wants it, and this is how it works out best for everyone.
Let’s break shit tests down even more. Essentially if she say X is Y but you think Z is Y then Z is Y. Or put another way. She says guys who wear boots are lame. You wear boots and you are awesome therefore her statement is false and yours is true. When you hold true to your frame that you are an awesome and attractive guy and don’t give in she will give in to it (like she wants to do but she first has to test you to make sure you are genuine). Always keep the frame your awesome and anything that contradicts that frame is B.S., don’t give in to her tests and she’ll love you for it. She’s looking for a guy with masculinity who’s frame will dominate hers and be congruent.
Many guys talk big game but then give in at the slightest push. They have no masculinity and women hate this. As far as frame goes remember that your perception is your reality. What you think you create. If you think you are great than you are great. You mold reality (and her frame) to your will (and frame). Bring the girl into your stronger reality. She will submit her weaker reality to your stronger reality and love it and be attracted to you for it.
Shit tests are how a woman tests to see your masculinity (and therefore attractiveness). Give in and she’ll lose all respect and attraction for you. Stand your ground, maintain the frame, and she’ll get even more attracted to you. She wants your frame to conquer her frame, your masculinity to conquer her femininity, and eventually for you to conquer her. You are the king and she is the subject, this is how it is supposed to be and this is how women truly deep down want it. It is what fulfills both men and women when they are acting out their natural roles.
Shit tests are battles of the frames in which she is desperately hoping that you are strong enough for your frame to win so that she can submit to you. Don’t be like the ninety nine percent of guys who are weak and give in. Be a man and stand strong and as I say the woman will fall at your feet. Remember the frame is you’re awesome and you’re the man and nothing on this earth or anywhere else will sway you from that. Maintain the frame and pass her tests like a boss by keeping your balls intact. Be the man you were created to be.
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