Many people live for their excuses, they identify with them and in a sick way need them to cope. Otherwise they’d have to face the reality that their life is their own decision. Let’s use a popular one. I can’t get girls because I’m not tall, rich, ripped, white, X, Y, or Z. It’s all bullshit. If you’re not getting X it’s your own fault. The only exception to this is if you want to play professional sports and you are five foot and weigh one hundred and twenty pounds. That’s it, everything else is up for grabs.
Look there are people who can’t walk who are making millions, who are getting girls, who are succeeding in every aspect of their life. Whatever excuse you have that you think is valid, it’s not. I’m here to make that clear to you. Excuses are bullshit. I don’t mean this in a “rah rah yeah you just gotta do it bro” way but in a factual way. Just be honest with yourself. I’m not where I want to be in life because I’m a pussy who doesn’t want to get after it. That’s going to be the real reason.
There Are Two Choices You Have In Life
The first post I ever wrote for this site is titled “You Have Two Choices” and in that post I talked about how there are two choices that we are presented with everyday. Those choices are we can either surrender to the problems and situations we are presented with. This is what the majority do (and as we know what the majority do is never right). They surrender and find “solace” in their excuses and rationalizations. They become victims and therefore lose all their power and responsibility. Their excuses ensure that they will never rise.
The other choice is growth. My mission is all about your growth. To grow as fast and as much as you can. That is why I write. Growth is the other option we are presented with everyday. To grow in response to the problems and situations presented to us. Those who choose growth everyday cannot be stopped, they cannot be beaten, and they overcome everything that life throws their way. It’s a choice who you become. The victim who will never accomplish shit or the man who will rise in response to every challenge.
Turn Your Weaknesses Into Strength
I’ve noticed something that more I study success. Generally those who reach the height of whatever they focus on generally started at the bottom. Here is what I mean by this. Many of the richest were born poor. Many of the guys who are most successful with women started out being losers with women. Most of the guys who have reached bodybuilder level bodies started out skinny, weak, or fat. This isn’t to say that the average don’t sometimes rise (remember it’s a choice for everyone) and obviously this doesn’t include professional sports. But it applies to everything else.
Why is this? It’s because those at the bottom were thrown curves they were given problems that they had to solve. And in order to get above the bottom they had to fight and learn. Which led them to the top. You see those in the middle just survive in a numb/sort of happy state. They don’t strive but they don’t die either. They just exist. They don’t meet challenges because there are few. That is why so few of them achieve greatness because they would have to take it upon themselves. Whereas those at the bottom are thrown into the ring. They turned their weaknesses into strengths.
Regardless Of Everything, It’s A Choice
Your life is a choice, your choice to be exact. Where you end up will be your own fault for good or for bad. The only limits (other than physical competition) are those in your mind. Drop your excuses. They’re not valid and you know it. They are safety mechanisms that are choking the life out of you. Cut them free and live the truth. There are only two reasons as to why you aren’t where you want to be in life yet.
Those reasons are number one you’re on the path but still have more to travel. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, just the fact that you are taking action and doing something is good. Keep working you’ll get there. And reason number two is you’re just too much a pussy to get it. No it’s not because you’re X, Y, or Z it’s because you’re a coward plain and simple. Maybe that’s harsh but harsh truth will do more for you then comforting lies ever will. If it’s number two that’s holding you back there’s only one thing to do. Stop being such a damn pussy and get after it.
Summary
None of your excuses are valid. None. You are given two choices in life either you grow like a king or you surrender like a coward, there is no other option. Excuses are never valid, ever. They are “safety measures” that kill those foolish enough to put their self-worth into them. Cut away your excuses, take the hit, and get after it. An excuse is never valid, repeat that ten times a day if you have too. Etch it into your heart, an excuse is never valid.
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-Charles Sledge
