I’ve talked about how to talk like a man now it’s time to learn how to walk (or stand…or sit) like a man. Both a woman’s attraction for you as well as how much respect a man is going to have from you comes from your body language. Believe it or not but most of communication is communicated through body language. What we actually say only makes up about seven percent or so. Our body language speaks louder than our words ever could. If a guy has bad (feminine) body language it’s going to be a turn off for women and he’s going to have trouble getting respect from other men.
In this article I’m going to lay out the basics of masculine body language. Follow this guide is going to help you look more masculine and help convey your masculinity to others. Don’t be surprised if after following this for some time you start getting stares from chicks, a masculine man stands out like nothing else. You’ll also feel more masculine once adopting this body language. It works together to form a positive cycle. The more masculine you feel the easier it is to adopt masculine body language and vice versa. A good cycle to be in. Alright now for how to have masculine body language.
It’s A Process
First off reading this article one time isn’t going to be enough to undo years of bad conditioning. Just like redoing old negative thought patterns, its going to take some time. You can’t just change your stance once and expect for it to stick forever more. However the more you correct yourself the more that the pattern of masculine body language is going to get lodged into your brain. So it takes time but at the same time the more you do it the less you have to worry about it. Think of it like you would any other habit.
It takes time but once in place you don’t have to worry about it anymore. So what you’re going to want to do at first is at certain take note of what you’re doing with your body. So for example before going out for a night look in the mirror and practice holding good body language for a couple of minutes. That way your mind is going to get a feeling for how it feels and it’ll make it easier to snap into it when you’re out and about. Again remember this will eventually become a habit once you get over that learning curve.
Take Up Space
Alright first things first, take up space. Stand with your feet at least should length apart. Uncross your arms and don’t cross your legs. Drape your arm over the seat next to you and so on and so forth. When you’re out you want to think expansion. Take up as much space as possible. Not to the point that you look like a clown of course but you want to expand into the environment instead of retract from it. This is just like a man takes action and effects the world around him instead of being effected by it but in physical form.
I’ll give you two examples for reference. One is you standing at the bar. You should have your drink out away from you not right up next to your chest like your hiding. You don’t want there to be anything between your vulnerable parts (neck, groin, chest) and the world. This shows confidence and masculinity on a primal level. Your head should be up and your movements should be slowed and controlled, no jerky nervous movements. Another example is when seated. Your arm should be resting on the chair next to you or back of the couch, open up. Likewise your legs should planted firmly apart and not crossed. Open, expansion, exposing.
Walk With Pride
If you had a good father he no doubt told you at times to keep your chin up and your back straight. This is because he cared about how you presented yourself to the world and wanted you to present yourself with pride. Walk with your head high, shoulders back, and back straight. Don’t slouch. Keep your chin a little in the air. Never look down as others pass, this signals submissiveness (which is the opposite of masculine). You want to also make sure that when you meet someone that you are looking them in the eyes directly and not looking down or too the side.
You want your chest to be high meaning your shoulders are pulled back. A good way of putting it is imagine your chest is light beams like on a car and you’re trying to shine them in peoples faces. Not slouching is something that plagues males more and more as their level of physical fitness goes down as well as they spend more and more time slouched over staring at a screen. Both for work and recreation. Remember chest up, chin up, back straight, and shoulders back. Write yourself a reminder to put on your mirror if you have to.
Alright so there you have it the basics of masculine body language. It’ll take time to get down but once you get it down you’ll be amazed at who notices. When you have masculine body language you stand out and in a good way. Without even speaking a word you convey that you are a man among boys. You convey your strength and dominance to the world in a natural way that everyone innately responds to on a primal level. Remember most of our communication is through body language.
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