This is a chapter from my book Understanding Women: Everything A Man Needs To Know About Women. Enjoy.
I was fortunate enough to be exposed to good masculine role models growing up as well as found the manosphere at an early age. So I was able to avoid any serious heartache in regards to women. However I am one of the lucky view and I am very grateful for all that the manosphere has done for me. Without it I don’t know where I would be. It ignited a spark that started a fire the will flame until the day I die.
However most did not have my good fortune and went into relations with women completely blind. They swallowed everything that society, religion, governments, and other say about women and were screwed over because they believed in the lies. They were burned some more so than others, many had their lives destroyed. They didn’t understand how completely depraved that women could be. They had them on a pedestal like a goddess and were angered when their goddess turned out to be something they never thought possible.
I feel for these men. I see men around me both friends and family who have had their entire lives shattered because of women. Who have had their hearts ripped out and stomped on by women who could care less about them. Many of these men did nothing but support and provide for these women and were rightfully shocked when the woman did a 180 on them and showed her true side.
Pain & Pleasure
As I said in The Primer woman can either be one of the greatest sources of pleasure and fun in your life or the greatest source of pain and frustration. All depending on if you know how to handle them by understanding their true nature. Unfortunately most men do not understand their nature. Society is programmed specifically so that men do not understand their nature so that women and those in control can benefit from men’s ignorance.
It is the nature of women to go along with this. Most don’t even realize that society is structured to be completely in their benefit, they are ignorant of it (as well as most things). Many men expect woman to be able to comprehend these things like a man and get frustrated when they don’t. This is another source that can often turn to anger and hatred.
Remember the story of the scorpion and the frog. A scorpion asks a frog to transport him across a river. The frog at first refuses saying that scorpion will sting him. The scorpion replies that he would not sting him as he would then drown as well. The frog thinks this over and agrees, after all it makes logical sense. No creature would kill itself that’d be foolish. So the frog allows the scorpion to crawl up on it’s back and go across the river. Half-way through the river the scorpion rears back and stings the frog. With his last dying breath the frog cries “You fool, why did you do that. Now we will both die”. To which the scorpion replies “I could not help myself it is in my answer”. Who do you blame the frog or the scorpion?
Women are not innocent saints by any means. They will take advantage of weak unaware males just as a lion would eat a weak gazelle. Even at their best women are really nothing more than large children. That is why society has put so many restraints on them as children left to their own devices will cause destruction and chaos. When you understand this you understand that women will do whatever they are allowed to do. Like men when conquering a city raped and plundered because they could women will do whatever they can get away with.
Why Hatred For Women Is Not The Answer
So you say what of all this? Isn’t this a reason to be mad? Isn’t this a reason to hold hatred? After my life was destroyed how could I not hold hatred?
Now this is going to sound harsh but the first thing you must do is take responsibility for your life. Everything that has happened to you has happened with your input.
Only by taking responsibility for your life can you hope to heal. Playing the victim is disgusting regardless of anything. Sitting around moping and stewing does nothing but destroy you. It does nothing but hurt you. You think the woman who screwed you over sits around thinking about it? Of course not she is up and on with her life. Women will not feel remorse unless they are forced to, if they can get away with something they will.
Hate does nothing but hurt you. Whining does nothing but hurt you. Having a victim mentality does nothing but hurt you.
You got hurt, it sucks. The entire reason that I write is so that men don’t have to go through the fucking grinder before they discover the truth. Like they say an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. I’m sorry you were lied to and that your life was destroyed. I really am. It’s bullshit, no doubt about it.
But it’s time to move on. Be a man. Reclaim your role. Men are not victims they are actors, they change the world and shape it to their vision. You are not powerless you are more powerful than you could imagine. Let love for yourself not hatred of others propel you.
Hatred is a disease a sickness. If you harbor it, it does nothing but destroy you. Love yourself and live for that.
The Place I Write From
Personally I love women (meaning I love their feminine nature). For example when I say to dominate women, that they want to be sexual objects, and so on and so forth it’s not out of hatred of woman or “Yeah I’ll get back at her” whiny bullshit. It comes form a place of love.
I love being masculine and I love myself. I love when women are feminine. By women can only be feminine when men are masculine. Men are the actors women are the reactors. I write from a love of both the masculine and the feminine. The natural order that God created.
Hatred has no place between the sexes. Men who hate women are just as foolish and self-destructive as women who hate men. Not just hate the gender as a whole but hate the nature of the sexes. Men should relate to women as men and women relate to men as women. This is what causes unity and things to work properly. When men take up feminine nature and women masculine nature it causes friction, destruction, and pain.
Things that are not fixed by hatred but by males becoming men first and then females will become women. Love and appreciate the feminine nature for what it is but for shit’s sake make sure that you understand it.
Regardless hatred only hurts yourself. I gurantee the woman that hurt you has no remorse so the best thing that you can do is brush yourself off and become all that you can be. Not wallow and whine. Men don’t wallow or whine, they sarge forward under the worst of circumstances.
The point I want you to take away from this is this. Never live for a woman even if if it’s to get back at her. Life for yourself and your life. She isn’t worth it. Like the old saying goes wallowing in hatred for someone is like swallowing poison and then waiting for them to die. It just doesn’t work. Life life fully and for yourself, no one else.
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