How To Get A Woman Addicted To You

How To Get A Woman Addicted To You by Charles Sledge

This is a chapter from my book How To Get Girls: The Definitive Guide. Enjoy.

There are men who have trouble getting a date with women and then there are men who have to beat women off with a stick. While the vast majority of men fall in the former category those men who can get women addicted to them fall into the later category. The men in the latter category reside near or at the top of the sexual pyramid with women in the middle and then the vast majority of men at the bottom settling for whatever scraps (if any) are thrown their way. This is no way to live. Luckily you can change where you reside on the pyramid and go from the bottom echelons to the very top.

For men who have embraced their masculinity and are men, they have a hard time keeping women away from them. They will have women respond strongly to them wherever they go because women naturally respond strongly to masculinity. They respond strongly to masculinity in societies where masculinity is encouraged and the majority of the population has at least a modicum of masculinity, so in a feminized cancerous society such as our own women are going to respond like crack fiends to men who are masculine. The process of getting a woman addicted to you is relatively simply, just follow what is lain out below. The trick is keeping them off.

Dominate Them

Women love to be dominated by a strong man. They may not admit it but it’s the truth. Masculine dominance is to women what a round perky ass is to a guy. A giant turn on. A guy could say till he was blue in the face that he doesn’t care if a woman has a nice ass as far as attraction goes but he’d be full of shit. It isn’t a choice, it’s biological. And as I have said biology trumps societal shaming and any ideology.

Tell women what to do and how you want it done. Have standards that they must meet. Make them perform for you in some way, shape, or form. Don’t demand them around like a domineering slave master. Dominance is not barking orders from a place of insecurity, dominance comes from a place of security and is the opposite to domineering. Let women know what you want. If you want them to do something for you, make them. Not angry and fighting but simply by stating the fact if they want to stick around they have to meet certain standards and qualifications.

You’re not making them jump through hopes as in a “Ha I’ll show her” way. Remember this comes from a place of security and appreciation for the feminine. Not from a place of insecurity and hate. These are simply your standards and she can either meet them and perform or get out. Again not in a hateful way just in a matter of factly way. Women want to perform for you. They want to please you. Show them what does and then let them do so. They’ll enjoy every minute of it.

Maintain The Frame

This is key to so much with women and life. As a man you cannot show signs of weakness, or put more accurately you cannot be weak. Weakness has not part in a man’s life. Men and women both has disdain for a weak man. A man who plays the victim will always be hated as men are not victims but rather warriors and creators. When something goes wrong in a man’s life he doesn’t pout and whine. He sarges out and fixes it, he does something about it. Whining and complaining are never an option in a man’s life. Nor are bitterness and hatred.

When a man makes a decision or comes to a conclusion he sticks with it. Even if his women or all women are against him he keeps his conclusion and thoughts. A man doesn’t change for others regardless of who they are. He doesn’t let others shame and control him but rather goes his own way and follows his own path. He is immune to the opinions of others. This doesn’t mean he never listens simply that when he makes a decision he sticks with it. He isn’t unstable but rather firm and unmoving in his convictions.

A woman will test a man’s strength to make sure that he is in fact a man and the what she sees is the real deal. When the man maintains the frame and doesn’t change or give in. A woman will know he is the real deal and get even more turned on by him. She will want him more and more as long as he maintains the frame and doesn’t budge for her. Or anyone else for that matter. He is a rock that the winds of society and women simply bounce off of. He moves when he wants to move, he will not be moved by others.

Screw Her Good

Good sex equals dominant sex. Again women and others may say otherwise but it doesn’t change the truth of the matter. I’ll say it again good sex equals dominant sex. Dominate your woman in the bedroom. Tie her up, spank her, make her call you daddy, choke her, and she will soar to heights of ecstasy that she didn’t know was possible. It cannot be said enough good sex equals dominant sex.

Romance novels are to women what porn is to men. Trust me if you opened up your average romance novel you’re not going to be reading about how the billionaire, vampire, biker, or whatever was lovingly caressing the heroine. No you are going to read about how the heroine was being banged off the wall in wild throes of passion and being used as the male’s sexual gratification tool more than anything. That is what equals hot sex. Not tender loving. It’s not secret why 50 Shades of Grey has sold over 100 million copies in record time.

Dominate her in the sack and she will be at your beck and call. Literally she could be on a date with a guy, you could text her, she will leave the date come over screw your brains out knowing she is going to be kicked out once the orgasms are over. But she won’t care because of what you’re doing to her. Make her cum from your manly dominance and you will be a diamond among coal. A man among boys. A fresh prepared organic steak among piles of dog shit. You’ll stand out in her mind above all others and she will be addicted to you.


Getting women addicted to you is relatively simple. While lame ass PUAs go out and get rejected by girls even the pros only getting laid in one of out one hundred approaches (and no I’m not making that up). Real masculine men go out and have women just about throw themselves at them. They want to be taken and ravished by a real man, not some little boy with his scripts and techniques but a real man. Be a man and the women will fall at your feet, every time.

So if you want a woman to come back anytime you want her to. To be at your beck and call remember to do these three things. Dominate her. Make her do things for you and have standards she has to meet. Make her grow her hair out if it’s too short, make her wear heels when she’s out with you, make her start a workout routine of your choosing. Not from a place of being domineering but from a place of security and dominance. Maintain the frame, don’t give in to her or others. Show no weakness and always be the man. Dominate her in the bedroom. Get rough with her and she will love you for it. Allow her to be the submissive fuck doll as she has always fantasized about doing. Do these things and she will do whatever you want whenever you want.

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-Charles Sledge

Charles Sledge

  • And that is pretty much all the wisdom one needs to get and keep those girls – Dominate her, Maintain your frame with her (it’s your reality she wants to be part of, it is your happiness and your pleasure she must only be concerned with. You are not chasing her reality), and Fuck her like there is no tomorrow… Great post – straight to the point and the truth, if only we had this when we were eighteen…

    Be a man gentlemen. In every situation and every moment of your life… be a man. Don’t worry so much about being a good ma – that is the man society says you should be, but be good at being a man – that is the man you were born to be, the man you really want to be and live that mans life and don’t bend or break for no one.

    • Absolutely Dash, be a man and everything else falls in place

  • Scarto argento

    Warrior , creator , organic steak . What a pick me up , this article was today . And your sounding more poetic as we’ll Charles . I’m a Be walking around like buffalo steak for now on !Truly inspiring . Thanks man

  • H8TheWayLifeIs

    would you say being dominant with woman is sort of like being bossy with them, bossing them around, and would also say being dominant means “taking what you want”?, taking what you want, not sure if i’m interpreting it the right way but it also sounds like forcing the other person to comply with you

    • Uh not exactly that’s more domineering which stems from insecurity and is unattractive. Think of dominance as more the woman wants to do what you want. More of a leadership quality than a nagging quality if that makes sense.

      • H8TheWayLifeIs

        oh ok, thanks, that makes sense, but then why do you think a lot of people mention the phrase “taking what you want” or “go out and take it”, what is the origin of that?

        • I’m not sure. It boils down to “get off your ass and have balls” essentially.

          • H8TheWayLifeIs

            thats another reason why i fully agree when you said ““Becoming a man is a process, while a girl may mature into a women
            simply by biologically aging it is not the same with men. Many males die
            still boys, even if their biological age may be one hundred.”

            “Girls naturally mature into women they don’t have to do anything to do
            so. However with a man he must be initiated into manhood by other men. A
            woman cannot turn a boy into a man, ever. Doesn’t matter how good her
            intentions are or how loving, caring, or whatever a woman is. It is
            biologically impossible for a woman to raise a boy into a man. Hence so
            many issues with boys (well and girls but that’s a different story)
            raised by single mothers. They simply are not biologically equipped to
            do so.”

            Another reason, and i felt this way, because being a leader, taking the lead, leading, requires skill, it has to be learned, or just not the cases for guys that are naturals for women in which being dominant, taking charge, leading, was always natural common sense for them but thats because probably they were initiated into manhood with the very few masculine role models today.

            Being a Follower doesn’t require really any practice or skill, meanwhile being a leader does and we all know whose shoulders it falls upon to be the leader, you agree with that part? i feel thats another way of saying “women are born, men are made”, “a woman simply is, but a man must become”

          • H8TheWayLifeIs

            you also think it’s true that most guys in general don’t really care about a womans attitude or mindset? a womans attitude or mindset, vibe, doesn’t really impact her attractiveness to men that much right?

          • No, I would say it does. Again not desperate guys (which is a pretty large amount of the population) but if a woman is bitchy or stuck up or masculine it’s a big turnoff for guys with options.