Just build yourself and your empire.
Focusing on the situations life throws at you and the success of other people that you feel is undeserved will do nothing to further you in life. Life is unfair. Let me repeat
Life is not fair.
And guess what? It’s never going to be. Now you could whine but because you are focused on bettering yourself and your life you know whining is pointless. Instead successful people adjust. They figure out how things work, how reality works. And they adjust. Instead of constantly doing the same thing over and over and whining when things turn out the same way they pause and see what is happening around them.
What Should We Do When We Feel Slighted?
Get the hell over it and move on. Look life doesn’t care how you feel and for the most part others don’t care how you feel. This doesn’t mean that you should repress your emotions just understand that ultimately it is what you that will decide things not how you feel.
Bad things happen to good people. You must be prepared for this. Doesn’t matter how hard you work, how smart you are, how “moral” you feel you are. Bad things will come your way, it’s a gurantee. However this doesn’t matter. “How?” you ask. It doesn’t matter because what ultimately matters is how your are going to deal with it.
Look at it this way say you know at some point in the future you are going to get in a fight. You don’t know when or with whom but you know that for whatever reason it is one hundred percent assured that you are going to get into a fight. Now let’s look at a couple options you have. You could whine about it. Why me I didn’t even do anything. It’s not fair. He just doesn’t like me because his girlfriend likes me. Or pick a hundred other complaints. They do nothing for you. Your still going to get into a fight.
Now let’s say instead you think. Alright I didn’t do anything wrong but nevertheless this is happening. So you focus on solutions. You hit the gym. You box, you spar. You get a few practice fights under your belt. You feel a lot more confident. You continuously better yourself day in and day out. Now when the fight comes you will be a lot less worried. Sure you may still lose but you’ve done all you can to prepare. And that is what matters in the long run. You still don’t know when the fight will be or who it will be against but instead of whining you buckled down and got ready.
Whining solves nothing, ban it from your life.
Hate and Haters
Some people don’t deserve the success/money/fame they’ve achieved…
Yeah and so?
What of it? Will crying about it get you any closer to your goals? Don’t focus on other people. Unless it’s to help them or to learn from them. Hating on others does nothing. As a matter of fact haters often propel people more than promoters do. Look at Trump. Mike Cernovich of Danger and Play recently wrote an article about a hater of Trump. Let me ask you a question do you think that woman is getting more people to vote for or against Trump?
Speaking from a purely business perspective I love haters. I look forward to having haters. Haters are great. Haters will tell everyone they know about me. They’ll constantly go on and on about me. Speaking from a personal perspective I love haters. If someone hates me then I know I’m doing something right. I know if I never inspire hate then I will never inspire love.
So when you focus your time and energy on the hatred of someone else’s success/money/whatever you are not only wasting your own time but also promoting that individual as well. Entire brands are created out of the hatred of others.
Don’t waste you time on this pointless exercise.
Replace
Any and every time you feel like whining or hating, don’t. Instead focus on yourself. Focus on building yourself or bettering your life and brand.
When the desire to complain about a bad situation in life comes up replace it with doing something to better yourself. Read a book, workout, get outside. Anything.
Same goes for when someone you hate pops up on the TV screen. Don’t sit there and fume go do something productive. Or better yet get rid of the TV completely.
And remember don’t whine, don’t hate.
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-Charles Sledge
