“Hey Charles what line can I use to pick up Playboy models without fail?”
“You can’t”
“But PUA master Mysterio 5000 said that he does it every day and that I could do it with the right game”
“Yeah he’s full of shit”
“Okay, well then how can I start earning a six figure income in the next month, I currently work at McDonalds and live in my mom’s basement”
“Yeah you can’t”
“But mindless platitude YouTube guru 501 said I could”
“Yeah he’s full of shit”
“Fine, well then what I can do to be a world class boxer while also winning Mr. Olympia in the next 6 months”
“…”
Don’t laugh. I guarantee that both you and I have had this mentality at one point or another. After all it’s only human nature. Plus with every guru and product out there sold promising you the world for no work (it wouldn’t sell very well otherwise) it’s no wonder that society has adapted this mentality. Everybody wants something for nothing (and older generations are no exception to this). Everybody thinks they can get the reward without the work. And while there is certainly a difference between working smart and working dumb, that never precludes that you have to work hard, especially for the things that are most worth it in life.
For example let’s take boxing. Something I’ve improved dramatically at over time. And why did I improve dramatically? Because I spend hours and hours at the boxing gym each and every week putting in the work. I put in the work when it’s boring, when I’m tired, when it’s hot, when it’s cold, when the gym is jam packed, when the gym is completely empty, and so on and so forth. I put in time in the ring, with the coaches, sparring, with the bags, shadow boxing, jumping rope, doing those god awful medicine ball things, and so on and so forth.
Put In The Time
You can get just about anything that you want in life if you’re willing to put in the time to get it. As Jack Donovan said in one of his podcasts all training is sacrifice. Meaning that training is sacrificing your time to get what you want. Time in the gym, ring, mat, office, and so on and so forth. A good portion of this time is doing things you don’t want to do. For example want to know how fun copying out famous sales letters by hand is? Not fucking fun at all that’s what. What about working on your footwork that you’ve worked on for probably hundreds of hours in the gym? Think that’s fun? Because it’s not. Same with getting punched in the face sparring or grinding out a heavy set of squats.
Not fun, but one hundred percent worth it. You can’t get the great rewards without great sacrifice. Whether that’s passive income that allows you to live the life that you want, a harem of beautiful women, a healthy and happy family, superior fighting skills, a muscular body with low body fat, or anything else. These things require working hard, dedication, working smart, and above all else time. That’s why starting early with things gives you such a huge head start in life. Getting things right at 18 (assuming you stick with it) makes a world of difference from getting things right at 25. Don’t get me wrong getting it right at 70 is better than never getting it right but you get my point.
What Are You Willing To Sacrifice
To get what you want. Also understand that many goals are mutually exclusive. For example if you want to be a world class basketball player that’s going to preclude you being a world class running back. Now obviously your physical build would already decide that but you get my point. You have to make choices and decide the path that you want to take in life. And some paths preclude other paths. That’s just a fact of life. This isn’t to say you can’t have multiple goals in different parts of your life or to say you can’t be well rounded just that there are paths that are mutually exclusive. And every choice has benefits and consequences.
For example let’s look at using heroin. Heroin has the benefit of making you feel very good for a limited amount of time (like most drugs) but has consequences ranging from ruining your life to imprisonment to dying. Now other choices may not be as drastic as using heroin (which obviously is never worth it) but you get my point. Every choice from using drugs to choosing what movie to watch to choosing why to marry to choosing to sneeze or not has results. Some major, some inconsequential, and some somewhere in between.
What I’m Getting At
The point I’m getting at with all of this is that you have to know what you want and you have to understand that two things that you may preclude one another. Also in order to get the things that you want you’re going to have to sacrifice for them, plain and simple. Especially if those are things worth having (and I hope they are). No one gets around putting in the work, no one. This is just a simple fact of life that will never not be a fact of life. So like the rules of the universe instead of simply breaking yourself against them hoping they’ll change for you, it’s far better to understand them and act in accordance with them to get what you want out of life.
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-Charles Sledge
