This is a weekly column by Stefan Simonovic. Stefan runs multiple dating sites and writes about dating for men. In this article Stefan is going to talk about how to communicate with an angry woman and still get your point across. Enjoy.
You’d be surprised to learn that lots of women out there would get angry with you if they felt they didn’t have a shot with you and/or because they were horny. They’d pick a fight for no apparent reason simply out of their frustration and powerlessness caused by the fact they can’t have you.
Speaking of powerlessness, one of the main causes of anger in both men and women is that feeling of helplessness in a situation in which they’re emotionally invested. Women yell at you because they feel you don’t treat them right, but are powerless to change that.
Further, lots of ladies just lash out because they’re having a bad day, want to be left alone, or someone was rude to them. Mind you, that someone could have been you, so watch out.
In some instances, they’re unhappy over some ‘minor’ things that seem huge at the time, such as their obsession with the most popular Instagram accounts, and why theirs isn’t worth millions of dollars, but hey, we all have our moments.
If you need to prove your point to an angry woman, you can’t do what most guys do in the face of female anger – bail. Unfortunately, you need to stick around, hoping for good reflexes if she tosses a plate at you. In addition to ducking, you’ll also need to work on your honesty, Zen, and logic, and you still won’t be 100% sure she won’t poke your eyes out, but at least you’ll know you’ve done everything in your power to get your point across.
Honesty Is The Best Policy
Whatever the reason for your ‘misunderstanding’, being honest from the get-go can save you a lot of headaches in the future. If the angry woman in question is your wife/girlfriend, make sure all your responses to her interrogation are not only honest, but concise, clear, and straightforward. Otherwise, you run the risk of being accused of dodging the question or trying to charm your way out of an unpleasant situation. Stick to the basics, don’t give out too much details if those could hurt you, and definitely don’t respond to anger with more anger. Convey your message as if you were speaking to a perfectly sane, intelligent, and mature adult whom you respect dearly. Never, for the life of you, go on the offensive or tuck your tail between your legs. Be smart about what you say, choose your words carefully, and never lose focus of your real goal, which is making it out of there alive.
Keep Your Cool
Don’t let her rattle you, confuse you or throw you off track with her yelling, seemingly convincing accusations or the ultimate female weapon – tears. Speaking of tears, keeping your cool in the presence of a sobbing woman is no walk in the park, but if you give into her ploy, and trust me, it’s a ploy, you’ll lose your ground, and pretty soon find yourself defeated by an angry woman. Needless to say, if you hold your life dear, never call her tears a ploy to her face. No matter what she says or how loudly she cries, you need to be the voice of reason through the entire fight, which means you absolutely have to stay calm. Being a voice of reason is the best way to get her to respect you even when she’s wishing she could end you.
Logic Is Your Ultimate Weapon
Women are emotional creatures, and when angry they don’t think straight. Even when things couldn’t be better, their logic is often flawed because their judgment is clouded by emotions. This is precisely why you need to look for the holes in their reasoning, and present them very carefully. Keep your voice down and shift their attention to the irrational arguments they’re presenting. Make your point with confidence, but not arrogance, and keep your sentences short and clear because they’ll only hear every other word that comes out of your mouth as they’d be busy visualizing inflicting pain on you. Whatever you do, don’t walk out on her mid-fight because chances are you’d be looking for your things all over the neighborhood when you come back. Also, don’t end an argument abruptly. Give her time to calm down as you talk patiently and respectfully, trying to get her to see the reality. The yelling will stop, the tears will dry, and her voice will return to normal. Only then can you say she’s fit to have a conversation, and that’s your time to prove the point you’ve been trying to make.
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