This is a another guest post from my friend Vincent Menniti. Vincent runs a great blog over at Andreia Thoughts that deals with masculinity, mindset, making money, and much more. Vincent got the name for his blog from the Greek concept of Andreia which means masculine energy, spirit, and honor something much needed in today’s world. You can follow Vincent on twitter here for site updates as well as insights from Vincent himself. Enjoy.
With modern technology we’ve been given many opportunities such as being able to connect together on return of kings. We’re now able to connect with like-minded men, who before, would have no way to speak or connect. I am thankful for technology, and you should be to.
Technology has also ruined many aspects of culture I used to love . For one, seeing an attractive woman, and walking up to say hello. I never had an agenda, as many mainstream news platforms now assume men who approach women want to rape them. When I was younger, women accepted approaches. They wanted you to come and speak to them. Technology has removed that.
Now approaching women in public is even more risky. Portugal has made it illegal. Many other countries are following suite. In Peru, impacting the freedom or dignity of movement can land you a year of jail time.
England is taking it a step further. “incidents against women that are motivated by an attitude of a man towards a woman, and includes behavior targeted towards a woman by men simply because they are a woman.”
Speaking to a woman with the behavior of a man is now a hate crime. What does that even mean? You are no longer safe to use day game, or make friends in public. So how do you go about meeting a nice woman to bring home without going to prison?
Tinder has become the modern way of meeting a new woman. If you’re in a public space or the next time you go out, take a look around you. People uniform prefer to look at their phones, compared to speaking with each other. Men who don’t read Rok would continue swiping, head down in a terrible state of posture, if a beautiful woman sat next to him.
While this isn’t my preferred way of meeting women, this is the way it currently is. To take advantage of it, below are my top tips to help with your tinder experience. These are not the same tips you’ve read in every tinder post, I’ve made this different on purpose. Since most tinder advice is generic and useless.
Tip #1 – No More Than One Hour A Day
Tinder is a worthless and total waste of time. Think of it this way from a woman’s perspective: what’s more attractive, a man who only chases women? Or the man who ruthlessly chases his goals? One is thirsty, while the other is powerful. You can spend 70% less time on tinder, and get multiple times the results. Here is how you do it.
First, buy tinder premium. Make sure to cancel the subscription right away after you by it. You only need to spend 10$ one time to get results. The reason you need this is so you can get unlimited swipes. With the unpaid version, the swipes you have are limited. This will give you thirty days or so of the service which is more than enough for what you need.
Second, download an auto-liker. There’s many out there, you need to find one that works for you. I use bonfire, formerly known as tinderly. It’s available for both android and iPhone, although I don’t know how the iPhone version is.
With these two tools you can like close to 10,000 girls an hour. Don’t look at who your selecting, like every single girl. If you don’t want to use an autoliker or buy tinder premium it’s the same premise. Swipe right on every single person. Then you sit back and see your matches. This is a giant list of people who want you. if they’re gross, un-match them! If they aren’t message them.
Using this method I spent about 20 minutes on tinder a day usually during a break from working. I had a few thousand matches and had much better overall success.
Tip #2 – Escalate To Another Social Platform.
women are masters of Photoshop, angles, and poses. Even though men are misogynists pigs, there are total guides to taking the best ass selfie. Written for and by women. We’re the pigs, right? The biggest fear of a man is to meet up with a woman who is not her photo’s. Overweight, bad skin, it’s the truth.
Before meeting a woman on tinder, you must verify her on another social media platform. Preferably snap chat since it’s real time. If you get her Facebook and there still isn’t any body shots, it’s a no go. If you can get a last name that can be enough to do a little investigation. It’s worth it to take five minutes to see who she is before you meet. Trust me. I’ve made this mistake before.
No body pictures, no meetings, no exceptions. This rule cannot be broken.
Tip #3 – After 5 In The Harem, Delete It
How many women do you really need to see on a constant basis? Any more than five and you’re wasting your time, and won’t achieve any of your goals. Three is a good middle ground between having no options, and wasting your time. It’s fine to enjoy your leisure time, as long as it doesn’t affect your work.
The best way to use tinder is not for one night stands, but for mini relationships. Meaning instead of one night, think 3 months. An unofficial friends with benefits scenario. A small, miniature relationship. This way again you spend less time on tinder.
Tip #4 – The 20 Message Rule
The twenty message rule is another guideline to help save you time. After you’ve sent twenty messages in a conversation, you get a phone number, or you remove her. Many women don’t use tinder for dating, but for attention and validation. Since 98% of American men are so thirsty they’ll do anything. Don’t waste your time chasing someone that only wants to be chased.
Once it’s obvious things aren’t going anywhere remove the match. You’ll have hundreds of matches using the first point of advice and things will get overwhelming. Prospects that are going nowhere or whom you’ve already received a number from need to be removed so new prospects can enter.
Tip #5 – Never Send A Second Message
If she doesn’t respond to your message after two days, delete her. For whatever reason she doesn’t want to speak to you or doesn’t have the time. Her loss. She may not be serious, or may not care to meet anyone. You want to only work with women who are actively looking to meet you in person.
The one exception to this rule is the hail mary. Sometimes I’ll send a second message so outrageous I want to see if I can get a reply. It may be something offensive, or a opening line I want to try out that is pushing the limits. Also your opening line almost never matters. It’s how your photos look and your bio.
Tip #6 – Actions Over Words
“Not looking for hookups”
“I’m here for friends only.”
“My girlfriend made me make this lol tehehe.”
These are all lies. It’s not about what you say, it’s about what you do. Deeds are truthful, where words are demonstrating what you would like people to think about you. For example, if alpha playboy Steve Mcqueen talked about how confident he is, would you believe him? This would be a sign he isn’t, and believes he needs to convince you otherwise.
Often times I’ve found that the women who listed they weren’t here for hookups were girls who actively wanted to hookup with me.
The most important thing to remember from this article is that Tinder is a waste of time. Do whatever you can to spend less time on tinder, and more time honing yourself into a better man for you. I wasted much time chasing women when I was young. Time that could have been spent learning a new skill. If this can even save an hour of your time, consider it a success.
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To add one more point to this it doesn’t necessarily matter if you buy tinder premium. The algorithm is organized to place those who liked you in front so you get more matches. Again, swipe right as fast as you can without looking. You’ll be set up with a bank of people who want you. If they’re gross, unmatch them. Saves more time to read Charles Sledge.
Haha thanks and good to know!