Mindset is what decides our fate and our future. Even when we use our mind properly and understand how big of an impact it has on our lives many of us are still stuck with old behavior patterns and beliefs that hold us back. Many that we are not even aware of. Unfortunately if left unaddressed these faulty beliefs can greatly limit what it is that we accomplish and the time frame in which we accomplish it. Live if meant to be lived and be lived to the fullest. However with limiting beliefs this will not happen.
The first step to addressing limiting beliefs is becoming aware of them. That’s right the first step is awareness or admitting that we have a problem that needs to be addressed. Once we are aware of it we can then move to take action to confront and overcome it. Below are 5 of the most common reasons that we do not live up to our full potential and experience the success that we should be experiencing. Many of them have to do with beliefs instilled in us when we were children and will have to be fought against extra hard. Perhaps you only suffer lightly from one of them good, still needs to be addressed. Perhaps you suffer heavily from all of them even better, now they definitely need to be addressed. So without further ado here are the top 5 reasons you are not living up to your full potential.
Reason #1 – You Do Not Believe In Yourself
Maybe when you look at someone who is success, it doesn’t matter in what, you think “Well that’s great for them but it can never be me”. You are suffering from a limited mindset and faulty self-belief. You need to have complete confidence in yourself, doubts will betray you. As Shakespeare said “Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” Meaning when we let our doubts take over our mind they steal away the good that was already ours. Never doubt yourself.
When we see that hot girl but let doubts cloud our mind we miss our on a night of passionate sex. When we have a business idea but don’t execute it (as ideas by themselves mean nothing) we miss out on never having money problems again. You can see where I’m going with this. Not having a rock solid self-belief in yourself will do nothing but hurt you. Doubting yourself only leads to missing out on the life that you deserve to live.
Reason #2 – You’re Not Taking Enough Action
Knowledge is a wonderful thing. Without knowledge it hards (read about impossible) to get anywhere in life or love or business or whatever it is that you want. The whole run into the wall until you find the door method is foolish and a waste of time. Though many recommend it. Instead it’s much better to find those who have walked the path before you and learn from their mistakes. Why fall down the same hole that so many others have fallen down when you could learn from them and avoid it in the first place? This is why I recommend reading so highly.
However with this being said knowledge in and of itself is not going to do anything for you. Knowledge isn’t power it is potential power. Knowledge combined with action is power. If you have no knowledge and take action you’re doing the run into wall until find door method however if you take knowledge and combine with action you are going to excel far above all of those around you. Remember knowledge alone won’t cut it but neither will action alone, you must combine the two for absolute power.
Reason #3 – You’re Waiting For Permission
Ever since we were young we have been conditioned to avoid risks and to ask permission for anything and everything. This unfortunately cripples many of our minds into being slaves instead of free men. Something you need to drill down deep in your mind is that the only person you need permission from is yourself. I know that goes against what your parents, teachers, preachers, society, the law, and just about every other social construct has told you since birth but it is the truth. All of those social constructs were designed to hold you back and keep you in line anyways. To be a good sheep, nothing more and nothing less (though good parents are an exception). You don’t need permission from others to be great, give yourself permission and that is all you need.
Get rid of the permission mindset. You don’t need it and it is only holding you back. Others will try to convince you that it is for your own good but they are lying. They want you to have a permission mindset so you never wander too far off the plantation. Free men do not need permission. Nothing is more precious than our freedom. Real, true, honest masculine freedom. You do not need permission from anyone. You are not a boy anymore you are a man and the only person you need permission from is yourself. So give yourself permission to succeed.
Reason #4 – You Listen To Others
Don’t get me wrong listening to the right sources can be instrumental in bringing about the success that you desire (in any field). However most people have no idea what it is they are talking about and are completely full of shit. This includes many in prominent positions and with big money behind them or fancy degrees. None of that means jack shit in the real world. You do yourself a disservice by listening to others, unless they are a vetted expert who have provable experience and can be trusted.
You especially do yourself a disservice by listening to the majority. Look the majority are a bunch of slobbering zombiefied sheep, harsh but true. They are little above that of an animal (and perhaps even below because even animals have some form of dignity). Look at the average Westerner. Pathetic, weak, crippled, and easy prey. You think listening to their type is going to do anything for you? My guess is that if you are a regular reader of this site you already know the answer. Don’t listen to others, except for a vetted few.
Reason #5 – You’re Waiting For Others To Catch Up
I’ll be honest. I could give a rat’s ass about “humanity” as a whole. However I do care about my kin and my comrades. And have been reluctant to leave either behind in the past. I have since learned that you must come first in your life completely and 100% but this was one place where I suffered. I would have the keys to success and the path to get there but waited on others to catch up with me. This proved to be foolish as I wasted my time as well as limited my potential. You want to be the free man on the motorcycle blazing through the desert not the geek stuck in traffic on the freeway.
Waiting on others means you have to rely on others which always, let me repeat always spells disaster. The only person that you can rely on is yourself. When you wait on others you are always going to be limited by whoever the weakest in the party is. Thus putting a governor on your speed. It doesn’t matter if you have a car that can go 200 MPH if you’re traveling with someone who has a car that can only go 20. Ditch them it’s the best thing you can do for all of you, trust me.
Summary
There are many more reasons for not living up to your potential. However these are some predominant ones that I have seen time and time again. Ones that I wish I had been aware of years and years ago. Look even if you do want to help others the best way to do that is to put yourself first. Success trickles down. Focus on yourself and you will then be able to take care of others who are worthy of your help. Just always keep the focus on yourself.
P.S. If you want to learn more about the whole mindset thing check Mind Is The Master, you won’t regret it.
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-Charles Sledge
