This is a guest post from Paco Penne of The Adonis Alpha (NSFW!), a site where he gets into the nitty gritty details of how to be good in bed, relationships, and being a masculine man and embracing that nature to the fullest. In this article Paco lays out 3 traits that every alpha male exhibits. Enjoy.
Being an alpha male does not necessarily have anything to do with sex. You can be the alpha in your work life, getting what you want when you want it. That doesn’t mean you’re going to fuck anyone.
But if you are an alpha, people will be able to tell and you will inevitably get laid. Girls are automatically attracted to the alpha. It’s an evolutionary imperative. Women are hardwired to go for the guy most likely to give her strong, powerful children.
On the other hand, you don’t need to be the alpha male in order to get laid. Becoming an alpha might be your long-term goal, but you’ll quickly lose motivation if that doesn’t help you now.
I’m not saying you should fake it til you make it but… well, you’ll need to fake some of it. There are particular traits that make alpha males irresistible to women. If you emulate these traits effectively, you will get laid every time.
And don’t worry – they don’t have anything to do with size and stamina.
These are the 3 traits every alpha exhibits.
1. He has courage in the face of rejection
When you look at an alpha male, you might see someone who is not afraid of rejection. But why would that be the case? Alphas, more than anyone, are unaccustomed to rejection. So when they come face to face with it, it hurts even more.
The difference is not that they don’t fear rejection, but that they face it anyway. This is what true courage is. If they were not scared in the first place, they wouldn’t need courage.
Courage will get you laid for two reasons.
- You’ll be persistent. Instead of being thrown by one rejection, you’ll move on immediately.
- Girls love guys who are ballsy. In terms of the evolutionary imperative, it makes sense. Courageous guys appear stronger than those who show fear or stay in the shadows.
Think you’re just not a courageous type of guy? That’s bullshit. Anyone who feels fear can show courage.
The trick is not to beat yourself up for being scared. Allow yourself to feel that fear, then go ahead with your plan anyway. Approach a chick who’s “out of your league” and see what happens. This is true courage, and if it doesn’t work with the first girl you approach, it will work with the next.
2. He values himself enough to be attractive
Guys who are not yet alphas often think they have to be incredibly attractive or have an inborn sense of style.
But the truth is you’ve got it the wrong way round. Alphas aren’t alphas because they’re attractive. They’re attractive because they’re alphas!
Alphas have a strong internal sense of their own value. Because of this they put time into looking as good as they can. If you don’t value yourself, you won’t believe you can be attractive and you won’t try. And very few guys are born attractive.
Thinking you can’t be attractive because you just don’t have the looks is like thinking you can’t learn another language because it sounds like gibberish to you. Yes, guys with natural good looks are more likely to believe in their own attractiveness. But by putting in the work, you can get there too.
Look at someone like Tanner Guzy or Well Built Style. These guys take men who are downright ugly and show them that just by putting in a bit of effort they can be chick-magnets… or at the very least above average.
With good grooming, a bit of style, and a good dose of self-belief, you can easily be more attractive than the average man.
3. He expects you to like him
One of the major reasons why alphas are so good at getting girls into bed is that they’re never begging or persuading. When most guys go up to girls, they’re trying to convince them into hooking up.
This is like using words to try and convince someone a meal tastes delicious. The perfect meal will not be to everyone’s tastes, but even those who don’t like it will admit that it’s good. It doesn’t need clever wordplay tacked on.
Alpha males expect girls to like him and want to be with him. When they get rejected, it hurts, but they know it’s not because they’re not good enough. It’s a matter of taste, that’s all.
That’s not to say you shouldn’t use pickup techniques. But those are simply ways to get yourself in front of her. Once there, if you have shown courage, value yourself enough to look your best, and expect her to like you, that will be more than enough.
You don’t have to be an alpha to get laid, but you’re going to have to emulate these fundamental alpha traits. The more time you spend working on them, the more natural they’ll become and will prove imperative in your quest to become the alpha male.
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